nonono, here's the situation.
Let's call my friend Tim. Tim has a wife named Kim. I met Tim through a previous job and we are amazingly alike. Even physically quite similar. Only difference is he's a few years ahead of me in life (28ish i think). So, we have naturally become pretty good friends over the last few months. Kim and I also have a lot in common, we're almost opposite gender of the same person. So, of course, we quite enjoy each others company. But, remember, I'm a lot like her husband so obviously I'm her type. And, I never get into arguments or anything with her (which is unavoidable on occasion if you live with someone). So, she has become attracted to me. He knows that and it has been really bothering him and making him all pissy. He's paranoid that she's going to leave him for me. Over the weekend I helped her with a paper for a graduate course she's taking. Last night she was making plans to come over to my place today to bring me the latest version. I get home at 5:30, she gets out of class at 4:30, so she was going to meet me there right about when i got there. But, because of traffic (easy to get into dallas, impossible to get out between 4 and 6) she's have to stay around for 0.5-1 hour. So, she suggested we get lunch / dinner. He then told her "I can't believe you're going this to me!" Kim doesnt have a lot of friends and isnt very social, Tim often tells her she should be more social. If I were a girl there wouldnt be any problem here
Kim and I did have a little discussion yesterday in which we discussed whats going on between us... I was quite amazed to hear someone (especially someone married) tell me that they're attracted to me. And she also told said that "the animal part of me just want to..." but then also that despite that, the rational part of her brain will never allow that to happen because she does take marriage very seriously and she's not going to have an affair.
She accidentally let it slip the other night when they were having one of their emotional arguments that he'd had an affair. Most things they are totally open about with everyone (they'll have loud, emotional arguments in front of people and not care) but this, as soon as it was said, everyone got quiet and finally he said to her "that's between us" and that was like a big deal.
she asked me if she thought a man and a woman could be just friends. i said yes but im not too sure about that.