but if someone else forgets to brake while you don't, he takes you out and it sucks. This is an element of racing I don't care for.
Comments like this only show that you have not played these types of games to any great extent.
This is not what happens in the course of the game, people are not throwing their brakes on in an attempt to damage your car. It's simply not an issue, by doing this the other person is also taking themselves out of the race as well as you, and if you're driving correctly, and brake immediately, the damage would be minimal anyways, making it a pointless tactic that no-one in real life uses to win races
It simply makes it more realistic, you try not to ride someone's ass 6inches from their bumper, because you that if something happens you're screwed. Although, there are times when you will take that risk, and other times when you will decide to play it safe, this all adds to teh play dynamics. You have to drive defensively, and try not to put yourself in situations where you're at risk. Now, of course this all happens very instinctively, and subconciously, so the end result is simply a more engaging, more stressful, more realistic experience.
There is no sense of 'lottery' though there is the realism where if you put yourself in the wrong spot, and a mistake happens, you might suffer the consequences. Most of the time, you could have avoided the situation by being more aware, and driving a better line.
Games without damage modelling are much worse in this regard as it doesn't punish damage, meaning someone can T-bone your car as you are taking a corner, something that you can not really avoid (as opposed to front end collisions which you can avoid with skill) and that same person can speed away unscathed and go on to win the race. Try that in forza, and sure you would be out of the race, but so would he, and as a result, everybody is VERY careful around turns, and goes to great care NOT to hit other cars just like in real life. The there's the whole wall-bouncing thing, which is an aspect of racing that I certainly don't appreciate.