The549 said:
You're a stay at home husband? Cool!.......I have this weird feeling that once me and my girlfriend enter the workforce, she's gonna get all these job offers......
Don't fret it and just be supportive of what comes. Deal with it as it develops and don't worry too much about crossing any bridges until they come up.
Anyways, I may have skipped it; was wrong with your current cars?
Abso-bloody-lutely nothing, they're both in top-notch shape. My wife just wants a new car and since she can afford it I don't see much reason to object.
I am going to try and object to me getting one, I don't need it and I see better ways to blow the money....but I'll cross that bridge when it comes up.
radeonic2 said:
Wonder how ya feel when you're wife is the successfull one at first?
Wonderfully happy for her success and proud as hell of her accomplishment! She didn't just become a pharmacist, she decided she wanted to be a pharmacist when she was 16 and she put herself thru one of the countries top pharmacy schools (Purdue Lafayette), graduated with honors, and got her dream job....how else should I feel?
There has to be some dissapointment at first at least.
Why? I never did feel any dissapointment about it. Mebbe a little jealousy/envy when I had to give up my US Steel job that I was soo proud of. I got it myself without any connections starting at about 20k a year and in the 16 months I was there I got bumped up to about 35k a year and was about to receive another promotion to somewhere in the 40-50k range when I gave my notice that I was leaving.
I was a little disapointed that I had to give up "my career in computers" just because my wife had a job offer that paid more than double that, with better benefits, and disgustingly better hours...but those are three pretty damned compelling reasons and to do anything else would be unfair to me family!
I can work later, right now I got kids to raise.
That's kind of why I'm not in a huge rush to go back to school, I know I can already get a better paying job than the degree I'm going for will get me....but I want the degree for the edumacation more than anything else.
Besides, my wife really missed working. She went to school for bloody ever for it, and she likes what she does. Win/win all around, it just took some getting used to.
Sage said:
if my future wife (yeah right... that wont happen) has to work I'm going to feel horribly guilty. I see it as my job to take care of my wife and daughters (if I have boys then screw them, they'll have to work for it just like me) and make sure they never have to do anything they don't want to and have the opportunity to spend their time however they wish.
not that i think stay-at-home husbands should be ashamed or anything. i think it's very admirable for a guy to give his time to his family like that. just for me personally I feel my way of providing is different. unless, of course, I marry a REALLY rich girl (like multi-million yearly income) then I'd be content to let her provide as long as she enjoys it. still wouldnt go around spending her money, though.
Now ya know why I don't always just go nuts buying PC hardware even though I realistically could, it just don't feel right!
I do want to get a part-time job just to earn my own spending money, but I won't be doing that until my daughter starts school proper. Maybe next year if she goes to full-time kindergarden, but not until both kids are in school full-time proper.
Hell, mebbe I'll try and get EB to become profitable and just work there...
sexualrug said:
But in all seriousness, you should get over feeling guilty if your wife works. Many people find different kinds of fulfillment from work. I am sure you know this but I thought I would mention it anyway.
Yup. I never thought I'd feel fulfilled "just" being a mom-thing, but the job is a whole lot bloody harder than I possibly imagined and when I am on top of things there is just this HUUUUGE feeling of accomplishment and pride I get....I keep a whole bloody wonderful family going and happy, that's a pretty damned big and glorious thing!
Beside, if nothing else I am without a doubt the coolest family system administrator to ever be. 8)
