Willmeister and Humus,
First off, I want to warn you that this is a topic that I am very passionate about. It revolves around a belief of mine that I believe in every fiber of my being. It is a given in my life.
I can do anything I want to do.
I also have another belief.
I am not that different from the average Joe.
Please keep these things in mind when you read my responses. It might help you better see where I am coming from. =)
Humus,
So you could do it, does that mean everyone else can?
Perty much, yes. I never said it would be easy. I never said that your past choices would not make it harder, but if you wanted to you could do what I do. One great way of doing things that others do, it learn what they did day in and day out to get there. Do the same things, keep focusing and reevaluating if it is working, and most important keep trying. I put my pants on 1 leg at a time just like any normal man. If I can do it, then you can too. I believe this to the very core of my being. I am not super human. I am not inherently better than other men.
We have people with family and kids
I never said it would be easy. Who made the choice to have sex? What can happen when you have sex? Who made the choice to have children? I never said you could do anything you wanted without sacrificing anything. If you want to do Job_X, maybe you need to hold off on starting a family for a few. If you choose NOT to hold off, that is fine, just realize that it is YOUR choice.
maybe even single with kids
Single parents are very hard. Please remember that unless they were raped, they made a choice to have sex. If you have sex, you can have children.
We have people with disabilities.
Cool story (I was told it was true, but I have never met the man), I should see if I can find a link to it. A man was riding his motorcycle and his eye caught a billboard for a second too long. When he looked back in front of him, a dump truck was stopped in front of him. He laid down the bike in an attempt to stop. The gas cap came off and he was burned horribly. He lost his wife to a divorce. One day, he was taking 3 friends out in his small plane. He didn't notice that he had frost on his wings and crashed at the end of his runway. 3 men walked away, he was paralyzed from his waist down. He later ran for an elected office and his slogan was, "If you elect me, I won't be just another pretty face". He ended up losing, but became an owner of very large company and got married to a new beautiful wife.
W. Mitchell survived having his face burned off from a gasoline fire. After 2 years, he was back in the mix, succeeding again. He ran for Lieutenant Governor of Colorado with a button that said, "Vote for me; I won't be just another pretty face."
Then he barely survived a plane crash, which left him paralyzed below the waist….so he let them take off his useless toes to create new fingers (the old ones had also burned off). Now get this…. he got out of the hospital… AND STARTED ALL OVER AGAIN!! Even without the use of his arms and legs he seems to be getting more out of life than, well, than 93 of out every 100 who read these words.
Do you qualify no working legs, toes on hands, burned off face as being disabled? He did pretty well don't ya think? People sell other people way too short. Heck, it is now a medical condition to be short in America!?! /gah
There is a wide range of disabilities and all of my comments in this thread were targeting at non-disabled people.
We have people that simply can't take having more than one job
Why would this be? Are they physically disabled or are they lazy?
Move if your area has zero minimum wage jobs. Minimum wage is not much at all, but it IS a start! =)
Willmeister,
Some people can swim the English channel, but even more can't. The "I did it, you can too" argument doesn't get very far with me and many other people for that matter...
Why not? Do you see me as someone super special, or do you see the average Joe as dumb, poor, and weak? I am not trying to anger you with that statement, but I couldn't think of any other way to ask it. /sigh
You were living alone? No kids? No wife? No incontinent elderly parents to keep care of? No medical problems? Sounds like you had everything going for you. A lot of people don't have anything going for them through no fault of their own; they're too busy with minimum wage jobs just to pay for rent...
Well, I was living alone working for money to go back to school. I got an apartment, wanted to sign a 4 month lease, but they said don't worry you can just sign 1 month before 4 months is up. In my youthfulness I didn't press the matter. My girlfriend lied to me and told me I was a father. I got sick, went to the doctor about my throat as it was all puffy. Ends up I was hospitalized that day, and they saved my life the next day. (RaR!). I have a cool scare running across my thought for about 5" to 6". While I was in the hospital, I was didn't go in and give my 1 month notice. I was therefore stuck with an extra month's rent, and I was already broke. I picked myself up and went back to school but not in the semester I had planed or hoped. So, if you think that sounds like I had everything going for me, wow.
Funny thing is, I had not thought about all of those hardships in a long time. I never NEVER blamed anyone! Life is not a bed of roses. My trials and tribulations made me the man I am today. Roll with the punches life deals you, and at the end of the day, the only person responsible for me is me. I can cry about it, or I can deal with it and make the best of it.
A lot of people don't have anything going for them through no fault of their own;
Do you think having kids is no fault of their own? They chose to have kids. Do you think getting married is no fault of their own? They chose to get married.
So you returned for a single semester? That must have been quite the workload...
Yup, I didn't make enough money to go back to school full time as it was very expensive. I had to go back a semester here and there. Again, I never said it would be easy. =P
epicstruggle,
Kudos!
Humus and Willmeister do you two think that someone should be able to have the joys of having 4 or 5 children and not have to make any sacrifices in their life? For most of us, if you have 4 or 5 children money will be tight. If you have 4 or 5 children then because of that choice it will be VERY hard for you to take European vacations or put yourself though college. It seams like you two feel that having children should not cause any sacrifices in your life. Did I misunderstand you? If not, then can you explain why you think that way?
Again, please remember it is a giving in my life that I can do anything be anything I want to be.
PERIOD I also don't think I am a superman or somehow a gifted genius. I believe
ANYONE that works hard for it, has the drive, determination, and is willing to sacrifice and do what they want to.
Dr. Ffreeze