best friend's wife (uh-oh)
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heh @ some of you.
yeah he just defaulted to my best friend because... well... i kinda lost my other friends. And, actually, I'd say now that at the time she was actually my best friend (still is). So, i slept with my best friend. And he is not completely closed to reconcilliation... i tried to tell her not to close any doors but she seemed completely uninterested. She said that she wanted to do something for herself for once and make herself happy. Which doesnt mean just sleeping with me, it means she wants to be in charge of her own life and do what she wants to do. She needs to be able to be independant. Her family are all telling that she's being childish just for wanting to make herself happy and not careing how it makes them look. Remember, despite everything that's happened, she doesnt regret it and would do it again.
yeah he just defaulted to my best friend because... well... i kinda lost my other friends. And, actually, I'd say now that at the time she was actually my best friend (still is). So, i slept with my best friend. And he is not completely closed to reconcilliation... i tried to tell her not to close any doors but she seemed completely uninterested. She said that she wanted to do something for herself for once and make herself happy. Which doesnt mean just sleeping with me, it means she wants to be in charge of her own life and do what she wants to do. She needs to be able to be independant. Her family are all telling that she's being childish just for wanting to make herself happy and not careing how it makes them look. Remember, despite everything that's happened, she doesnt regret it and would do it again.
Sage,
Try putting yourself in her husband's situation. It would be such an emotional scar to know that your best friend is taking advantage of his shaky marriage by having sex with his wife, and it's going to make him feel bad for a long, long time, and he's going to absolutely hate you.
I hope the sex was worth it.
Try putting yourself in her husband's situation. It would be such an emotional scar to know that your best friend is taking advantage of his shaky marriage by having sex with his wife, and it's going to make him feel bad for a long, long time, and he's going to absolutely hate you.
I hope the sex was worth it.
Kanyamagufa
Regular
Sage said:
Don't listen to this, Sage!Kanyamagufa said:
Get this Tim before he gets you!
Or if you want to gain some respect from us (Ok, only from me), fight this dude in a duel! Yeah, a good ol' duel, damnit!
But not a coward duel with firearms, no. A duel with combat knife!
Cut! Cut! Cut!
I didnt post the phonecall he made to me yesterday morning... he said a few things, some of which included "so, if I ever see you like out on the street or something... well... you can imagine what I'll do... so, that's a threat." and "so, don't ever come to my door because I'm an expert pistolman." and "so, why dont you just go throw yourself off a bridge. fucker."
And you expected him to say.......?
Hmmm, his life is going to shit. You slept with his wife (do not really pretend to know how this would make you feel as you are not married). You were not thinking about anybody but yourself.
Do not minimize this by saying the relationship was already over and that she wanted it etc... It does not matter if she wanted it or not. She was still married and going through a very difficult and trying time. You simply took advantage of the situation and her emotional turmoil to get your rocks off. Nobody has benefitted from the situation and perhaps it has made all of the lives involved much worse. You should have been the friend you have claimed to be throughout this thread and helped her and her husband through this trying time. If you could not help then you leave it alone. If you needed to release some tension due to the "infatuation" between you and the wife, some lotion and a box of kleenex may have done wonders.
Now that the deed is done you have to live with the consequences which may include deeling with the husband. He is pissed, hurt, angry etc...and is possibly blaming you for the breakup of his marriage (which is most likely not true, but for him you are the easy scapegoat that allows him not to deal with the real issues). Personally I cannot blame or fault him for these feelings and if I were in his shoes I probably would be thinking the same thoughts.
My advice is to be very careful and take some steps to protect yourself as anything can happen when people are under a lot of stress and emotionally angry. And I would not be surprised if someday you get the shit kicked out of you (most likely not by the husband but by another one his friends or family. I see this happen all of the time). But as far as I am concerned you may actually deserve the ass-whopping. Sorry to say (and even though I do not post here a lot I do read this form everyday) that I have lost all respect for you over this whole situation.
Sage said:
Hmmm, his life is going to shit. You slept with his wife (do not really pretend to know how this would make you feel as you are not married). You were not thinking about anybody but yourself.
Do not minimize this by saying the relationship was already over and that she wanted it etc... It does not matter if she wanted it or not. She was still married and going through a very difficult and trying time. You simply took advantage of the situation and her emotional turmoil to get your rocks off. Nobody has benefitted from the situation and perhaps it has made all of the lives involved much worse. You should have been the friend you have claimed to be throughout this thread and helped her and her husband through this trying time. If you could not help then you leave it alone. If you needed to release some tension due to the "infatuation" between you and the wife, some lotion and a box of kleenex may have done wonders.
Now that the deed is done you have to live with the consequences which may include deeling with the husband. He is pissed, hurt, angry etc...and is possibly blaming you for the breakup of his marriage (which is most likely not true, but for him you are the easy scapegoat that allows him not to deal with the real issues). Personally I cannot blame or fault him for these feelings and if I were in his shoes I probably would be thinking the same thoughts.
My advice is to be very careful and take some steps to protect yourself as anything can happen when people are under a lot of stress and emotionally angry. And I would not be surprised if someday you get the shit kicked out of you (most likely not by the husband but by another one his friends or family. I see this happen all of the time). But as far as I am concerned you may actually deserve the ass-whopping. Sorry to say (and even though I do not post here a lot I do read this form everyday) that I have lost all respect for you over this whole situation.
digitalwanderer
Legend
I didn't say Sage did ruin their marriage, I said he did "major bad"....as in "a majorly bad thing".Phil said:
I stand by my statement, I also stand by my warnings to him to watch his back for a while. A scorned husband is nothing to be taken lightly, add in the whole betraying a friend thing and it's potentially lethal.
See above. You really think this was a good thing for Sage? Let's see how it plays out before we pass judgement on that one._xxx_ said:
It's worked out pretty well for me.
EDITED BITS: I missed a "say" and got busted in a ninja edit by Ti...I mean by Intel17
Vysez said:
ur crazy vysz
Just tell him to fuck off. If he attacks you, don't fight him. Bring him into court afterwards and make some money out of that.
But whatever, it's time to stop seeing that weoman this way or the other. You helped her get out of herself but there's nothing more you can do for her. Do not start a relationship of any sort!
But whatever, it's time to stop seeing that weoman this way or the other. You helped her get out of herself but there's nothing more you can do for her. Do not start a relationship of any sort!
_xxx_ said:
Now that's a manly course of action. Poke his wife and then willingly take the beating so you can hire a lawyer and heap financial on top of the emotional damage you've already given the person.
Kanyamagufa
Regular
There's no way you can move earlier is there?
It sounds like that will solve a lot of the issues as far as him aiming at you with his enhanced shock rifle goes...
It sounds like that will solve a lot of the issues as far as him aiming at you with his enhanced shock rifle goes...
John Reynolds said:
well, he has suggested to me numerous times that I'm trying to ruin his entire life on purpose. I am, at this point, considering doing just that. Why? It's a control issue. He just got his dream job but I could very easily have that snatched right out from under him. I would like to call Kim up right now and ask her to go on that weekend trip with me like she was going to do (until he made a big deal about it and i suggested maybe she shouldnt. Hell, what am I talking about. I'm not that sadistic even though he is trying to manipulate me and control me and do the same to her to keep her in a marriage she is miserable in by scaring her and making her feel like she is a horrible person and everyone (even me) hates her. I know that right now he's probably filling her head with crap about me, saying that i said things or skewing things that i did to convince her that she was just a piece of meat to me and that now i hate her. And I despise him for doing that to her.
digitalwanderer
Legend
Why do I have the damndest feeling this just isn't going to end very well for any of the parties involved?
Y'know Sage, a very smart computer once said; "Sometimes the only way to win is not to play"....
....THIS IS MOST DEFINATELY ONE OF THOSE TIMES!!!!!!!!
Y'know Sage, a very smart computer once said; "Sometimes the only way to win is not to play"....
....THIS IS MOST DEFINATELY ONE OF THOSE TIMES!!!!!!!!
yeah i just sent her an email in which i explained why i had agree'd with tim that i would stop communicating with her. i told her that i thought me being in the picture was going to interfere with whatever she and tim needed to work through. i explained i wasnt angry at her, nor should she be angry at tim for asking (more like demanding, threatening me if i didnt... but i didnt say that) me to do this. i told her that she needed to decide what she wanted and if i were talking to her it would just complicate things further.
i still hate him for being so controlling and manipulative, though
(he actually told her that i had kiddie porn on my computer...!!! Sure, i can understand how my super paranoia about someone getting into my computer because i absolutely will not allow ANYONE on my computer without me physically present, and i have VERY strict security on my connecion to the widy wide web [there is one thing that i use 2048-bit encryption to transmit] which i will not, under any circumstance, compromise... i wont even allow a computer which i dont have complete and exclusive administator rights over onto the same LAN... yes i see how that could make him think i had that sort of stuff but i dont and there is NO reason for him to assume that over some mob-related info or some such very proprietary info... and yet he presented this to her as FACT. Fucking bastard. Luckily, she said that she wouldnt judge me if i did. i sure hope she believed me that i didnt, though. that's the sort of thing that you cannot help but think very truely horribly of a person for, even if it were your own child/parent)
i still hate him for being so controlling and manipulative, though
(he actually told her that i had kiddie porn on my computer...!!! Sure, i can understand how my super paranoia about someone getting into my computer because i absolutely will not allow ANYONE on my computer without me physically present, and i have VERY strict security on my connecion to the widy wide web [there is one thing that i use 2048-bit encryption to transmit] which i will not, under any circumstance, compromise... i wont even allow a computer which i dont have complete and exclusive administator rights over onto the same LAN... yes i see how that could make him think i had that sort of stuff but i dont and there is NO reason for him to assume that over some mob-related info or some such very proprietary info... and yet he presented this to her as FACT. Fucking bastard. Luckily, she said that she wouldnt judge me if i did. i sure hope she believed me that i didnt, though. that's the sort of thing that you cannot help but think very truely horribly of a person for, even if it were your own child/parent)
