TheMightyPuck
Newcomer
Well seeing as I don't know anyone here I'll still spout off because I'm now bored and sex is my favorite subject.
1. LB--I'm sure you've heard this a beeeelion times, but just because your present boyfriend is treating you like crap (I agree I'm making assumptions here so apologies if I'm way off base) doesn't mean that you need to wash the entire gender right out of your hair. Just focus on what you want and don't put up with any of his bs--I mean be a real hardass about things that bother you and institute a zero tolerance policy. People often don't realize the damage certain types of relationships do to them (including very important things like the ability to trust and self esteem and self awareness and understanding) until long after the dynamic (in this case LB and the ambivalently pined for quasi significant other--I'll go out on a limb and call him the "selfish and insensitive bastard") that planted the unhealthy seeds has been (consciously) forgotten. If you want to play with girls go for it, just don't tell them you've had some grand sexual identity conversion unless it is true. My suspicion is that you may simply be jaded because of the SIB. Sexual identity is pretty ingrained when people reach a certain age in my experience.
With respect to bisexuality. Woe betide the poor fool who ends up in that tricky place. Rationally one would think it would provide the best of both worlds but in reality sexual identity is a sacred cow and people hate a fence sitter.
Finally, we all know threads like this are the "ultimate form of masturbation". It's fun and often you want to take a shower afterwards but it's not like written putatively rational discourse is going to change anyone's mind about who they love and who they want to fuck.
That kind of reminds me of my exwife's simple theory about sexual identity. "It's not who you want to fuck that defines your sexual identity, it's who you end up falling in love with".
OK, I'm removing my buttinsky nose from this one.
1. LB--I'm sure you've heard this a beeeelion times, but just because your present boyfriend is treating you like crap (I agree I'm making assumptions here so apologies if I'm way off base) doesn't mean that you need to wash the entire gender right out of your hair. Just focus on what you want and don't put up with any of his bs--I mean be a real hardass about things that bother you and institute a zero tolerance policy. People often don't realize the damage certain types of relationships do to them (including very important things like the ability to trust and self esteem and self awareness and understanding) until long after the dynamic (in this case LB and the ambivalently pined for quasi significant other--I'll go out on a limb and call him the "selfish and insensitive bastard") that planted the unhealthy seeds has been (consciously) forgotten. If you want to play with girls go for it, just don't tell them you've had some grand sexual identity conversion unless it is true. My suspicion is that you may simply be jaded because of the SIB. Sexual identity is pretty ingrained when people reach a certain age in my experience.
With respect to bisexuality. Woe betide the poor fool who ends up in that tricky place. Rationally one would think it would provide the best of both worlds but in reality sexual identity is a sacred cow and people hate a fence sitter.
Finally, we all know threads like this are the "ultimate form of masturbation". It's fun and often you want to take a shower afterwards but it's not like written putatively rational discourse is going to change anyone's mind about who they love and who they want to fuck.
That kind of reminds me of my exwife's simple theory about sexual identity. "It's not who you want to fuck that defines your sexual identity, it's who you end up falling in love with".
OK, I'm removing my buttinsky nose from this one.
