You are equating grinding and absolute luck with toughness. Starving you out of content and endlessly asking you to grind or hope to get something is not "tough" . My problem is not that I want weapons and loots, my problem is that I want to play the damn game with friends which it won't let me because of the light crap.
So once again you are essentially asking to be immediately leapfrogged to the head of the line, because the reason you cant "play with friends" is simply they are higher level. As I explained in my last post about the 31 vendor armor, on top of that you are already being allowed to skip a large part of the grind that others had to go through...
I will respond to the rest of your post later.