We actually have the synology ds2411+ loaded up with 3tb hdd's and dsm 3.2, been using it for quite some time now and we love it. But I leave most of those other features off. For one we really don't need it, all the devices in the house work perfectly without it. I don't have any mkv's, etc, either, most of my videos are basically either wmv or h264 now, or blu-ray rips which work perfectly over the network to pc's or popcorn hour units anyways, no stutters, perfect audio, no issues for years now. It's been a trouble free network for quite some time now, very happy with it. Given that I prefer to leave the raid units cpu dedicated to just serving files and nothing more. It maxes out our gigabit network which is how I like it Although we're patiently waiting for 10gbe to get more affordable since more speed would be nice. The Intel 540 10gbe card leaves me hopeful that cheap cat6 10gbe hardware will be here this year.
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Personally i am looking into the Freenas / ZFS stuff, with the amount of data needed today for something like you do, traditional RAID is getting to the limit of my comfort zone.