You roll eyes and then THAT is your so-called proof?
The only thing worthy of eye-rolling is your weak examples. 3 of the 5 are tech demo's, and Heavenly Sword and MGS4 have no X360 version os it speaks only to the skills of the developers not of the power of the hardware.
ALso, Gears of War, Too Human and Mass Effect all seem to have excellent lighting, the new GR: AW also is extremely good.
If you want a fair comparison stop comparing games due out in 2007 (MGS4) to games launched in 2005.
As for Xenos not performing true HDR I don't know where you're getting that from, it's been confirmed it can do FP16 HDR, and I don't see how the EDRAM is a real issue here. RSX can't even due HDR+4xAA, so why couldn't Xenos use the same apporach if it needed to? In worst case scenario it suffers from teh same limitations as RSX, in the best case it can do more...