Ah, I can't thank you all enough for your thoughts. Pax is right, the church is a great place for support. And, I forgot to add this I think, My mom told my dad a few months ago that she was leaving him as soon as she can buy a new house. She already has a little piece of land a few miles away bought, so I'm going to move in with her as soon as we build a house there.
He's not just your average drunk; he's basically insane when he's drunk. He doesn't remember what he does when he's drunk, of course. I see him everyday and stuff, but I havent given him a hug or said "I love you" in about... a year and a half, I'd say. I do talk to my mom about this, by the way. All of the love I've lost towards my father I've focused towards my mom, really. She's amazing, and I'm saying that because she's my mom. She's given me everything that matters- my charisma, eloquence, intelligence, creativity, manners, kindness... musical style! I owe her a lot, definitely.
I think my dad's aloofness(sp?) is the reason I always talk to adults, usually men (Mr. Spurgeon the reading teacher, Mr. Symons the music teacher, Principal Wilcox, even Quinny!). I might be subconsiously trying to fill the space between me and my father with another man. Not that I really want any of these folks to be my father, I just need an adult male role model, as well as a female one(my mom).
And about the credit card, there is a big difference between use and abuse. He should have to at least buy me clothing; he is my parent. I promise that I'll
use his card, not abuse it. All I plan on buying for now are 2 pairs of jeans and a Bob Dylan T-shirt I've had my eye on for quite a while.
Thank you again, everyone. I posted this late last night, and I was feeling rather low, but I'm glad I did. Ah, I feel so much better now!