I'm currently going through a drawn-out break-up at the moment - the relationship is done but we're sorting out practical and financial details at the moment. We actually split on our 6th anniversary, and I'm 27. As an added variable, most of "our" friends are going to be "her" friends at the end of this split. It's complicated, but basically I'm at the stage where I need to shake the etch-a-sketch of my life and start over socially.
So I'm single again, and I'm looking to meet new people - both potential partners and new friends. I've always been a quiet guy, but I'm polite and can be witty. I have a hectic job which usually means late-ish nights on weeknights, and I enjoy my peaceful weekends doing a whole lot of nothing. I'm in a secure and well-paying job, and I own my own house.
I need some tips on good ways that I should be going about meeting people. All of the friends I have left (post-breakup) are those I made in school and uni. Pretty much none of those people are in my city, either, since I moved with my ex across the country... so I don't have much of a starting platform to dive off of. After uni, I'm finding it much harder to make friendships that aren't just office or coffee friendships. This is made more complicated by the fact that in my area I'm managing all of the people around my age, and my peers (management level) tend to be older and have families, kids and whatnot. It's generally awkward for both sides being the boss trying to be "one of the guys" at the pub.
I hate sports, so joining a team is a bad idea. I could try the pubbing/clubbing route, but going there tends to bring you closer to the kinds of people I couldn't imagine wanting to spend too much time with. I do like live music, so I should start pushing myself out there a bit more.
So anyone been in a similar situation? Should I just "wait for fate"? Tips and tricks are much appreciated.
Hope I'm not bringing too much puny human emotion to B3D
So I'm single again, and I'm looking to meet new people - both potential partners and new friends. I've always been a quiet guy, but I'm polite and can be witty. I have a hectic job which usually means late-ish nights on weeknights, and I enjoy my peaceful weekends doing a whole lot of nothing. I'm in a secure and well-paying job, and I own my own house.
I need some tips on good ways that I should be going about meeting people. All of the friends I have left (post-breakup) are those I made in school and uni. Pretty much none of those people are in my city, either, since I moved with my ex across the country... so I don't have much of a starting platform to dive off of. After uni, I'm finding it much harder to make friendships that aren't just office or coffee friendships. This is made more complicated by the fact that in my area I'm managing all of the people around my age, and my peers (management level) tend to be older and have families, kids and whatnot. It's generally awkward for both sides being the boss trying to be "one of the guys" at the pub.
I hate sports, so joining a team is a bad idea. I could try the pubbing/clubbing route, but going there tends to bring you closer to the kinds of people I couldn't imagine wanting to spend too much time with. I do like live music, so I should start pushing myself out there a bit more.
So anyone been in a similar situation? Should I just "wait for fate"? Tips and tricks are much appreciated.
Hope I'm not bringing too much puny human emotion to B3D