Breaking up

[London Geezer]

Well, i'm recently single, as of last night. Just couldn't take it anymore, the mind games, the indifference, the lack of respect. Nothing.
A friend of mine died on monday. With all the subsequent unwellness attached to losing a friend, and seeing my best friend being in a very bad state because of this.
The guy kept doing his thing, his not-calling-not-even-texting thing, even when he knew i needed to talk to someone, i needed to let some steam off.
As a person, not even as a boyfriend or a friend. As a person he should have at least made the effort to see how i was doing. Instead he just kept ignoring me, thinking that it would magically make the pain go, that it would magically sort our already-old problems out.
That was the last straw. I deserve better in my life, and we obviously are not meant to be together. He obviously is not meant to be with anyone. Instead of honestly telling me that he couldn't handle a serious relationship, he got both of us into this, and decided that the "ignoring approach" would miraculously sort things out.

Well, it's over. Danny's single again. Planet Earth beware. No one's safe anymore.

Just one question. Does it get better? The feeling in your chest? U know the one. I mean i shouldn't ask, it's not like i haven't been through this already...

(Natoma, PMs aint working for some reason, and, well, this is my PM to u)

 

[Deepak]

Who is Danny?

 

[London Geezer]

Who is Danny?

Err, me.

 

[rabidrabbit]

My condolences on the loss of your friend, london-boy.

Not knowing you or your b-f, or your relationship apart from what you have written, it does seem that your b-f was not ready for a more meaningful relationship, for reasons maybe even he doesn't know.

Instead of having the courage to tell it straight to you and break up, he put the burden on you waiting that you'd be the one making the move.

 

[London Geezer]

My condolences on the loss of your friend, london-boy.

Not knowing you or your b-f, or your relationship apart from what you have written, it does seem that your b-f was not ready for a more meaningful relationship, for reasons maybe even he doesn't know.

Instead of having the courage to tell it straight to you and break up, he put the burden on you waiting that you'd be the one making the move.

Well, he knew it would have been me. I spoiled him well enough.

 

[Guden Oden]

I'm sorry for your loss, London. Sorry about your ex being such an ass too, unfortunately there are far too many of those out there.

Good riddance to him, and YES, you do deserve better!

Take care, k?

 

[Druga Runda]

sorry for the loss of your friend ,

and the ex should be ex... you need to get someone who will be more in the same line as you are life wise...

 

[London Geezer]

Thanks guys, feeling better now. thinking about all the stupidity coming out of his mouth just makes me laugh now, that's how bad it was.

Some exctracts:

"I knew, i was thinking that we shouldn't be together for a while, but i didn't wanna lose you as a friend, because i want to be friends!! cause u're a great guy, u're the best thing that's happened to me in years!"

As if he was gonna stay with me, lie to me, make me think we were "together" just so he was "safe" and didn't lose me as a "friend". While i was gonna start making plans for the future, thinking that we were, u know, getting serious and stuff....

Then, as if that wasn't enough, after i go "well, i thought u were the right one for me, not liek it matters now anyway" he goes "Of course it matters! Dan, i don't think u'll ever know how much i think of u..."

Complete mistery. The guy is a complete mistery to me. and i'll never forgive him for playing me around the way he did, that's why it's very unlikely that we'll ever be friends. There was no respect, no consideration on his part, why would i want a friend like that? I choose my friends very carefully, my friends are the best in the world, and he's not gonna cut it. I don't need him, he doesn't need me.

 

[nutball]

"I knew, i was thinking that we shouldn't be together for a while, but i didn't wanna lose you as a friend, because i want to be friends!! cause u're a great guy, u're the best thing that's happened to me in years!"

I've had that exact same spiel from women, so I know how ya feel. "Can we be friends, oh, by the way I'm f**king someone else, I hope that won't damage our friendship now will it? because you're a very nice guy blah blah blah ... ". Talk to the hand, 'cos the face ain't listening petal!

(It's the sort of line that makes me go look in the mirror to check I don't have a Post-It note saying "Gullible Muppet" stuck on my forehead).

 

[London Geezer]

(It's the sort of line that makes me go look in the mirror to check I don't have a Post-It note saying "Gullible Muppet" stuck on my forehead).

Always better than the flashing neon sign over my head saying "If u're insane, talk to me!" with a big red flashing arrow pointing at me.

 

[zurich]

That's when you say, "no we can't be friends, if you wanted to stay friends you shouldn't have been such a dumb fuck", and leave it at that!

That's pretty much what I said to my now-ex

 

[London Geezer]

That's when you say, "no we can't be friends, if you wanted to stay friends you shouldn't have been such a dumb fuck", and leave it at that!

That's pretty much what I said to my now-ex

Yeah, cut the dumb fuck part, words like wanker, dickhead or asshole are much more suited.

 

[John Reynolds]

This girl I was messing around with in the late 80s comes to mind. We weren't really dating per se, she'd just come over to my apartment and we'd fool around. On occasion we'd go out to see a movie or get something to eat, but I never considered her a girlfriend (on her part, she did want me as a 'steady' boyfriend).

There were signs this girl wasn't quite right in the head. Like the time I got off work at midnight and swung over to a friend's house to watch a movie with him. My friend looked out his living room window and there was this girl sitting in her car parked out front. I of course left her out there in the winter because she just wanted attention by creating a situation. Crazy girl sat out there without her car running for over two hours.

Anyways, the real kicker of "can't we still be friends" came during one visit to my apartment. Here's the gist of the conversation:

John: Hey, what's that stain on your pants?

Girl: Oh, I blew this guy last night and he came a lot.

John: <eyes wide open> Oh, really? Umm, someone I know?

Girl: No, he was a total stranger. I didn't even get his name.

John: How'd you meet then?

Girl: He was hitch-hiking and I gave him a ride.

John: What?! Are you f'in out of your mind?

Girl: Why? What's wrong with what I did?

John: You have to ask? Are you that stupid? See the front door? Umm, yeah, walk through it. You're in the archives.

Girl: But why?

John: Out! Now!

Girl: Can I call home first?

John: Why, so you can tell your parents you're a psycho-whore who picks up complete strangers and blows them? Get the f*ck out now!!

Girl: Ok, but can we still be friends?

John: OUT!!!!!!!!

I ran into this girl some six years later at the mall. I was socially friendly, asked her how she'd been, blah blah. I then went home. Within five minutes of arriving home the phone rang. Is Melissa home (my wife)? Can I come over? <click>

Edit: Oops, forgot to add that I'm sorry to hear about your friend, London.

 

[sytaylor]

It amazes me that people don't realise you cant keep someone for friendship after rejecting them (if its been a one way rejection). It just doesn't work, its selfish and not fair.

 

[London Geezer]

^^ That was quite funny......

See, the fact is that he's (wasn't) not even messing around. He's just fucking insane. says one thing, does another. without even knowing, without thinking that it might be considered wrong by the rest of the world population.

 

[zurich]

What's wrong with blowing a stranger?

 

[London Geezer]

What's wrong with blowing a stranger?

As a single, nothing. As a boyfriend, or a almost-dont-know-what-i-am-but-maybe-i'm-not-sure, not acceptable.

 

[John Reynolds]

What's wrong with blowing a stranger?

And showing up the next day with 'stains' on your clothes? Uh uh, not in my book.

Only reason I even put up with this girl for as long as I did was because she was a wildcat in bed. She was half Japanese, half American, cute as a button, and, obviously, very oral. And very messed up in her head.

 

[London Geezer]

What's wrong with blowing a stranger?

And showing up the next day with 'stains' on your clothes? Uh uh, not in my book.

Only reason I even put up with this girl for as long as I did was because she was a wildcat in bed. She was half Japanese, half American, cute as a button, and, obviously, very oral. And very messed up in her head.

Must be all the cocks she took down her throat. Must have hit the brain. Or maybe her brain just got so soaked in cum she went a bit loopy.

Ok i am officially disgusting.

 

[Simon F]

...very oral. And very messed up in her head.

I'm sorry, but was the juxtaposition of those phrases deliberate?