I know. The decision realtime vs. turns is really upsetting some of the fans. But in grand scheme I would still wait until open alpha ends to see how the product shapes up before making up my mind. I would give bg3 chance if it was either way as long as the story is good. My roots are in turn based d&d, bg2 was just fine most of the time despite having to emulate turns with pause.
It's ok. though. Not everyone needs to like all games. I completely didn't like kojima's latest and wished he had made another mgs2/3 kind of game. That said some people really liked death stranding.
Maybe you would like pathfinder kingmaker? If you read reviews they are on the negative side but most of the complaints(other than difficulty) have been fixed with patches.
edit. I also played bg2 with 6 characters. That really made pause a mandatory evil, especially for spell casters.
