US set to abstain from UN vote

RussSchultz said:
I understand that need, Natoma. However, there is no way in hell you're going to get your marriage affirmed by the Southern Baptist Church I grew up in, regardless of how much legal recognition you get. I suspect you'd never be legally recognized in an islamic state, either.

Marriage is both a religious and a legal construct. You can fight and get one side of it, but with a large portion of the population, you'll never get the other.

You cannot force your religious views on people, and you shouldn't try.

Marriage is a construct almost as old as civilization itself. In its historical context, it is consistently a legal construct, yet not always is it religious in nature.

I'm not worried about the Southern Baptist Church that won't marry my partner and me. There are plenty of churchs, pastors, clerics, etc that will, and do. Even if it isn't legally acknowledged, many people still do it, because of the ceremony and what it means.

Besides, it's just as easy to go down to City Hall and get married there. Not that that is the way I'd like to go, but you know what I'm saying. :)
 
Natoma said:
Why do people get married Joe? To *affirm* their love for one another through the ceremony of marriage.

Correct.

And I could care less if it's a "governmentally legal or official religious" ceremony, as long as it's a "cermony" that is accepted by those whom I care about to be an affirmation of our love.

Are you saying that you and your mate couldn't invite your 200 closest friends and relatives to some service of your own making where you exchange vows and exchange those rings you both currently wear?

Why is that the case if marriage is "just" a legality and has nothing to do with love? Why do men give women engagement rings?

And you gave each other rings, did you not?

Why? Because it's ceremonial!

THEN CREATE YOUR OWN CERMONY! Are you prohibited from doing that?

Gay men and women simply want the ability to participate in those ceremonies, as they are designed for couples to indeed show their love for one another in the deepest, most relational way possible.

Read the above. I perfectly understand your "need" to publically affirm your love. I DON'T understand, and DO see it as "shallow" to have a need to have love "affirmed" in a "LEGALLY RECOGNIZED" ceremony.

Gay men and women can (AND DO, btw) participate and create their own ceremonies for publically professing their love and devotion to one another.

It's quite obvious what marriage means to people, as more than just a legality.

Correct. It's just that the ONLY thing that gay people cannot do in many states is the legal aspect of marriage. So I still don't understand what problem you have with the legal status of gay marriages, as it pertains to affirming your love.
 
Joe, I'm going to forward your responses to your wife and she what she thinks of your thoughts on the affirmation of your marriage.

Think you'll be getting any tonight? ;)
 
Natoma said:
1) I was educated at Berkeley Carroll in Brooklyn, NY. One of the best high schools in the nation actually. Then I went on to a little place called Yale.
Well, care to tell me what your major is? Whatever the matter seems that your education is no more advanced then intro courses.

Natoma said:
2) On the books today there are laws that say sodomy is illegal. And in most cases, it's only illegal for homosexuals to engage in sodomy, generally defined as not only anal sex, but oral sex as well.
Actually, any type of non-vaginal sex is deemed in quite a few states as sodomy.
So the laws on the books say that sodomy is illegal yet seems that practice is wide spread. So much for laws being the pivotal factor in social mores. On one hand you say laws create social morals and on the other you say that there are laws that are outdated? How is it that sodomy has become a less valid offence when clearly the law is still intact? You say that laws determine social morals but yet we can see this isn't the case.

Natoma said:
3) 100 years ago moral, decent people believed that keeping black people as second class citizens was the right thing to do. Some people used the bible to say that it was even endorsed by god! Actually what am I saying... There are *still* people today who will point out scriptures that say that african slavery was justified by god.

During that same time, moral decent people believed that denying women the right to vote and the right to work outside the home was the 'godly' thing to do. Man was to go out and work. Woman was to stay home and bear children. Anything else was ungodly and unseemly.

In the middle east, it's immoral for women to show anything more their ankles. And even then, in some spots, that is considered sinful.

Does that mean that middle eastern society should be allowed to subjugate women in the way they do, just because that's their moral values?

Please. Morality does not necessarily equate correctness. Hitler and his crew thought it was their moral duty to eliminate jews from the face of the earth because of what the jews did to christ.
I find it funny that you keep referring to 100 years into the past to look for your injustices. This suggest that indeed you see objective differences in society and that clearly it is better at this point in time. Lets look at this a little bit harder. 100 years ago the Irish were treated as low class people why is it you suppose that society changed its view of these people? It most certainly isn't a result of any action on behalf of the government so why is it now that they are treated as anyone else is? Do you look down on women that stay at home because they believe it is the right thing to do? Do you think less of men whom believe likewise? Are these women being patristic because they are not paying taxes? Do you think that such an arrangement ought to be incouraged for the sake of the well being of the children? Clearly you think there are other arrangements. While I would not argue that they are not viable I would argue that indeed children are fare better off in an environment where their biological parents are working together to look after their own children.

Clearly over 100 years ago there wasn't the great material wealth that the market economy has brought us today and these arrangements were more a matter of survival then anything else. The same arrangement has been predominant for the entire history of mankind. That is unless you want to go into the left wing theory that before society became market based we lived in some sort of suedo communal arrangement. Indeed hundreds of thousands of years ago the family where the mother is the primary caregiver and the father a more outside role of provider was the case. Which just lends more credence to the fact that society is patriarchal out of nature rather then nurture. Women have most always been subjugated. Even today men objectify the female. Women have always been more emotional on matters and this has always been a sign of weakness. Even in the feminist ruled Sweden they have a male as a figure head. ;)

No one made the equation that morality equates correctness. You did however say that law equate morals and no one better then you ought to know that laws don't equate correctness. The UN has no right to begin to determine what a peoples moral values should be and that is the thrust of my argument here. The debate on the matter of homosexuality being a genetic affliction or not will only be finalized with the discovery of the genes that cause the affliction. Oh the search could go on forever particularly if there are none. We don't know do we? You say you were born the way you are but there is no proof of it. Further to suggest that nurturing will not effect the outcome of a childes mentality really does not go in line with the rest of your left wing bias. You could finally articulate your cognitive dissonance here and explain that somehow society is patriarchal out of nurturing but when it comes to homosexuality you make some exception with human nature and suggest that it is a genetic predetermined destiny. Well, that is something really because most of the left wing support the gay movement has says there is no human nature and it is simply a matter of socialization theories that we turn out the way we do. I have brought this argument to you before and you fail to recognize the legitimacy of the argument.
Please explain just what human nature is to us all as it seems you have some inside track on it.

Natoma said:
4) Abortion will always have its foes. Frankly I agree with only certain kinds of abortion, such as first trimester abortion, or abortion in the second or third term only if the mother's life is in danger. I am vehemently opposed to partial-birth abortion because it is supremely barbaric, especially since it is only performed in the third trimester, when babies are most certainly capable of living outside their mother's womb, and are most certainly more than just a non-descript ball of cells.

The overwhelming majority of people in this country are against *partial-birth* abortions Sabastian. Not abortions in the first trimester.

Well finally we agree on something for the most part. But even though partial birth abortions were legal we still find them a discusting aberration don't we? I disagree with the idea that women should have total control over the pregnancy. But one always has to make some sort of concessions on these sorts of matters. I personally lost a child to abortion, a child that I wanted and the abortion happened after the first trimester. I simply did not have a say in the matter and this is wrong. The pro abortion mentality is that a woman should have a choice. I say they already have made a choice before they got pregnant to have sex with someone they would not have a child with. Personally I don't see how the child is at fault. Current laws are that a baby is not human until it is out of the womb, what kind of sick mentality makes such a claim. Abortion after the first trimester ought to be banned outright.

Natoma said:
2) Actually, I explained the differences between pedophilia (heterosexual and homosexual) and normal homosexuality and heterosexuality. But you snipped the definition out later on in the post you made. You also linked to a site (worldnetdaily) that is a fundamentalist christian website. Please you might as well link to the christian coalition website with their sponsored surveys and studies. I'm sorry, but I would not call them particularly unbiased.

The Journal of Pediatrics most certainly is unbiased, and definitely scientific. So believe what you will. I'll stick with scientific evidence regarding pedophilia.

Again I don't think that worldnetdaily is a Christian Fundamentalist website but your bias comes shining through there doesn't it. Actually the link you provided for this thread is from some radical social gay activist web page. lol. There are all sorts of evidence regarding pedophilia. I provided a link from a doctor. http://drjudithreisman.org/whitep/regent.pdf Please read this and tell me what you think of it.(everyone.) I included that link in the same response but you ignore that as well.

The link that you have provided includes commentary from the US National Gay and Lesbian Task force. Ironic this is the same organization that lead the intimidation campian that actually managed to force a 1973 convention of the American Psychiatric Association to declare that homosexuality was not a deviant condition but rather a normal condition. But there were all sorts of accusations doctors were compared to racists and the like in this intimidation campaign, funny how this still occurs Natoma. A small but well organized political lobby had actually succeeded in the first changing, then totally eradicating a medical diagnosis. Funny though only 58% of the American Psychiatric Association actually agreed with the charge.

The thing is the whole arrangement was a sham. Even four years later a survey of 2500 psychiatrists found that 69% actually still believed that homosexuality was a pathological adaptation. About 18% disagreed and 13% were uncertain. In 1989 Dr.Joseph Nicolosi said "many members of our profession still privately express the opinion that homosexual development is not normal. The 1973 ruling did not resolve the issue-it simply silenced 80 years of psychoanalytic observation". After the ruling all that remained to be done was change the publics discourse of the behavior of homosexual activities. There are plenty of scientific conclusions that suggest that homosexuality is not a normal condition and something that needs worked on. But todays Politically correct world does not alow for such perspectives. So much for science remaining objective as now it seems that homosexuality is some sort of untouchable absolute.

Natoma said:
3) You're right. Muslims believe it's poor behavior, unseemly even, to walk around in short skirts. It is certainly part of their religion.

Question though. Do you believe it's *right* for a country to legislate that women cannot walk around without looking like a bed sheet? Do you believe those muslim countries are *right* to force their female populations into subjugation, just because it's their religious beliefs?

Would you be for the Iraqis democratically voting in an anti-US theocratic regime in their first election? You do realize that the vast majority of Iraqis are shiite muslims who want the country to look like Iran.

So as I said earlier, just because the mob wants something doesn't mean that it's *right*.

Listen if you have a serious problem with the way Muslims treat their women you should speak out and criticize them a little harder. Instead all you do is speak out against what the US government does even though it seems you find this country considerably more just. Shame on you your hypocrisy knows no bounds. I suggest that you start rallies imiadiately to protest Muslim treatment of women today. Start picking at the subjugating Islamic religion. I don't know that these Islamic people need to be converted to our Judo Christian heritage, is that what you are suggesting? Funny that.

Natoma said:
3) You know what's sad Sabastian, while you're telling your kid that "those queers" are sick in the head, you could be insulting him/her. There are gay children Sabastian! It's not like we become adults and then all of a sudden we pop out into being gay. I grew up in a deeply rooted christian family, and was heavily influenced by christianity as a child, from the age of 2.

And *still*, even with all the negativity that surrounded me from my family and church goers, I still knew when I was 12 years old that I was gay. I had never been molested, never seen any gay imagery. I had never even seen two guys kissing, or heard about it. But I knew I was sexually attracted to the other boys in my class. I didn't know what it was until I looked it up in a dictionary, and read about it in the bible. *Then* I realized what I was feeling.

So guess what. You're telling your son/daughter that "those queers" are sick in the head, and you could be doing more psychological damage to them than anyone else could, because they look up to you, love you, and trust you more than anyone else in their life.

You heard me?

I don't know if there is such a thing as "gay children" at all. Seems you have resolved the age old nature nurture debate in one foul swoop with your homosexuality is genetic argument. I don't know what else to call people in chaps on a float of a giant erect penis. They are sick in the head. There are no homosexuals in my family we all come from heterosexuals. You keep your political agenda away from my children and stop trying to high jack societal values with your junk social science.

Natoma said:
4) There are religious people in this world that would cut off your penis for merely *looking* at their wife. There are religious people in this world that would stone you to death for having sex outside of marriage.

They can believe whatever it is they want to believe, just as long as it does not impinge on my ability to live my life in the pursuit of liberty and happiness, as every other american has the right to.

p.s.: There are gay and lesbian christians Sabastian. Just as there are gay and lesbian muslims. Hell, there are probably gays and lesbians out there who have a stronger and deeper faith than *you* do, if you believe in god that is, and whatever god it may be.
Listen I am not a Christian. Don't even pretend to be. Your suggesting that possibly one has to be a Christian or some other religious affiliation to be opposed to the proliferation of the idea that homosexuality is normal. Your wrong.
Natoma said:
Your use of "ugly people" is idiotic. "Ugly people" don't have laws on the books saying that if they have sex with one another they are committing illegal acts. "Ugly people" don't have to worry about being killed just because they're "ugly." "Ugly people" don't have to worry about being fired because some idiot in their job suddenly finds out that they're "ugly."

Sheesh. And why did I put ugly into quotes? Because imo "ugliness," is in the eye of the beholder, just as beauty is in the eye of the beholder. One person's hideousness is another person's beauty contest winner.

If you're going to make an argument, at least make one that is plausible.
Well.. this is coming from the person whom continuously make correlations between racism and homosexuality. But for the sake of argument people whom are ugly do face discrimination on a regular bases while not for the same reasons they are no less discriminated against. Oh I see it is only when you are discriminated against for what you do in bed that counts. The hypocrisy stinks here. People whom are ugly don't have the same chances of success in becoming gainfully employed. They face discrimination by members of the opposite sex. They do despite what you say get beat up and so on. But don't get me wrong here I am not out to get the government to change peoples preception of ugly people, fat people gays and lesbians etc... but you are. I am afraid that "beauty is in the eye of the beholder" only solidifies my argument. Why is it that we can come to a conclusion that one woman is considerably more attractive then another? Oh it must be a socialized phenomena. Something to do with advertising and the like. That couldn't be true in the US and Canada where obesity is rampid.
Natoma said:
1) Actually quite a few differences have been found. One such difference is the size of a gland in the hypothalamus which just so happens to develop completely during pregnancy, and regulates sexuality in the human brain. Apparently it is roughly half the size in homosexual males than in heterosexual males, closer to the size of a heterosexual females. And apparently this same organ in lesbians is almost double the size of heterosexual females, closer to the size of heterosexual males. Scientists attribute this difference to a possible lack of testosterone during critical stages of development of the fetus, as well as other factors.

That is just one difference off the top of my head.
Yeah could you provide an objective link? Please no pro gay site. Also I would love to see where they have found a gene and not a "possible" reasoning. Lets find legitimate science not speculation.

Natoma said:
2) You are heterosexual if your sexual attraction is predominantly towards those of the opposite sex. You don't ever have to engage in sexual activity to be heterosexual. You are homosexual if your sexual attraction is predominantly towards those of the same sex. You don't ever have to engage in sexual activity to be homosexual.
My sakes man. If your heterosexual your attracted to the opposite sex .... exclusively not "predominantly". If you are "homosexual" you are attracted to the same sex exclusively not "predominantly" to suggest otherwise makes arguments that you are bisexual not homosexual or heterosexual. Besides I never made the conclusion that you must engage in sex to be anything. Rather I made a clear reference to the behavior of heterosexuals and homosexuals.
Natoma said:
Heterosexuals can engage in homosexual activities and *still* be heterosexual. You see it all the time in prison. Homosexuals can engage in heterosexual activities and *still* be homosexual. You see it all the time in men and women who are trying to "make" themselves straight.
The difference is quite easy to see Sabastian. Open your mind a little and stop being so goddamned bigoted. .
No this defies the biological explanation you give and you betray yourself here. No these people would clearly fall in the bisexual arena. The difference is clear. You fail to recognize that the possibility of homosexual behavior can be induced from nurturing but rather it must be a biological affliction in your case. But with others it is clear that they can be made to act differently. Yeah I would agree there are very few cases of exclusive homosexuals and this only lends credence to the possibility that indeed it is a matter of choice that you choose to be exclusively homosexual and choose to be in a group that is discriminated against. I didn't say that BTW you did. I just helped you put your foot in your mouth. While you are not free to be heterosexual it is others that are.
Natoma said:
Gays men and women aren't hurting anyone. They are engaging in normal sexual activity with their partner(s) in the privacy of their home, just as heterosexual couples do.
They are only hurting each other in my opinion. What I am opposed to is the assumption that what they do is as normal as what heterosexuals do. Intercourse is based on the predisposition to reproduce. Homosexuals cannot ever reproduce.

Natoma said:
*However*, the sodomy laws on the books in most states *only* say that sodomy is illegal between *two males*, *not* between a man and a woman. That is most certainly discriminatory against gays because it applies *only* to gay men and women when heterosexual men and women most certainly engage in anal and oral sex.
lol, here we go on the sodomy laws again. Personally I think sodomy is disgusting, dangerous and damaging and don't engage in it at all. It is the proliferation of pornography that has popularized the use of sodomy. BTW have you ever been charged with sodomy? Anyhow it sounds as though you blame the law for the moral. I think it is the connection with the idea that feces is yucky and the lower intestine is not for sex but rather digestion that many think it is disgusting. But with the proliferation of the idea via porn it seems that we can see how the act can indeed be sexualized and nurtured into being a thing to do. Same goes with homosexuality eh?

Natoma said:
Who gives a shit what you think Sabastian. You could have thoughts of murder, death, and mayhem against anyone you like for all I care. You can be disgusted all you want to. But as soon as you take those hateful bigoted thoughts into action, *then* you have broken the law. This isn't Minority Report.
As I said before, I don't deal with sites that are fundamentalist christian. Just as I would not expect you to take the word of a gay site that came out with their own "statistics" and "beliefs" based on those "statistics."
Well well.. I take my thoughts into action as we speak. I never gave a link to any Christian Fundamentalist site. You however did give us a link to some radical gay activist site that is somehow more legitimate then http://www.worldnetdaily.com . give me a break.
Natoma said:
I'll stick with the scientific body of evidence available in the Journal of Pediatrics, a very well respected journal that almost all pediatric doctors in this country reference when dealing with pediatric care.

Drive through Sabastian. Drive through.

Heh, and the evidence I provided must be invalid? I am afraid that I will not "drive through" and I will always voice my opinions despite the law and political correctness.




Stvn said:
I will never disagree with your right to think whatever you want.
Oh thanks for that.
Stvn said:
But that same right is shared by all those around you. And if the majority of people think that we need a law to protect someone's rights, then the government makes one (of course i am simplifying this ALOT).
What if the majority don't? Steam ahead with the political agenda until they do of course. Intimidate them with words like homophobic(not really a scientific term at all.), bigot, racist and so on of course.

Stvn said:
You also have the right to teach your children your beliefs as well. You are not required (in the US) to send your child to any particular school, and especially one who teaches rules you dont agree with, this is your right. You are only obligated to provide proof that your child is being educated in a reasonable manner, so home-school if you are so concerned and feel so strongly.
Not in Canada and things are going that way in the states as well. In the US they have this growing movement called the Gay/Straight Alliance that is funded by US tax payers. I used to be able to find the recording of it for free but now it seems it is difficult to find. Gays activists are trying to shut down opposition to this organization. Take a look here to find out about what they have done.
http://www.massnews.com/past_issues/2000/Schools/fistrep.htm

Stvn said:
You are also not required by law to allow your children to watch cable TV, or to view any other form of media you deem offensive.

Of course these rights of yours to seek out a different life for you and your children from the one offered by current society are guaranteed by the constitution. But that same guarentee means that you cannot tell me how to raise my children.
Well you are wrong I do have to make sure my children are educated and sense I don't have the qualifications for it I must send them to the public schools where they will learn that homosexuality is normal etc. They won't learn the down side of it they will only learn the politically correct notion.
Stvn said:
But is it really as simple as that? I doubt it. Racism is a complex social issue. Its roots go back as long as mankind has been around. It cannot be and certainly has not been legislated away. It could even be argued (albeit weekly) that racism is in some way, human nature, since it has been around for so long, and seems not to be unique to a specific culture or race. But that does not mean that it is okay to act in a racist manner that infringes upon the rights of someone else. Racism is bad (hows that for an understatement), it is the mark of an uncivilized society, at some point future societies will need to transend the whole idea of race in order to continue to exist and progress as a species.
Yeah likely there will always be racism to one degree or another despite the law. But I am not really interested in the racism debate. For fun though: If I told you I think that blacks have superior genes does that make me racist?
Stvn said:
So how is this different for homosexuality? Is homosexuality simply about the act? I seriously disagree with that. That is the same as saying that your marrige (or my marrige, or any other hetrosexual marrige) is just about "the act". And i would guess that you might disagree with that minimizing description of your married life.

Sex is the act. Love is something altogether different.

I don't disagree. Marriage is not about sex nor is it necessarily about love. What marriage is about traditionally is a family and the married couple looking after their own children. Today however after the onslaught of the "sexual revolution" we have a high divorce rate causing allot of deviance in the children of divorced families, impoverished single parents and the wider proliferation of simply horrible STDs that absolutely ruin peoples lives.

Stvn said:
I know Natoma pretty well, I have worked with him on and off for over 4 years now. I know that what i see between him and his partner is not "about the act" but a genuine affection and love for one another. Do not try to minimize that which you do not understand, you will almost always be wrong.
Some of my best frends are gay too. ;)
Stvn said:
I am sorry, am i the only one who finds humor in your ability to extend any idea to a level of utter ridiculousness?

This is just insane, and i wont even comment on it.
Why so? You seem to think that racism is a legitimate cause. People whom are fat also come under lots of discrimination regularly. The ugly are no exception. The problem here is that you cannot rationalize ending all discrimination and I would agree it is prepostourus. The hypocrisy comes when you defend one small group and forget about the rest.

Natoma said:
You're a sad sad man Sabastian. You really are.

What's terrible about people that go through these "orientation change" therapy sessions is that they usually end up with tremendous psychological damage that fucks them up even worse than they were before.

How do I know this to be true? Because there are studies that were done on these orientation change programs from the 60's and 70's. Back then they used electric shock among other things. Actually what am I saying. Some of these programs today use electric shock.

I can see your son or daughter now Sabastian.

"Gee dad. You think gays are disgusting, so you want to fuck me worse than society already tries to huh? Way to go. You really love me."

With the attitude you've got, you don't deserve children.
I am sad am I? More like extremely fed up with this left wing mentality that focuses on discrimination selectively. Again there are not any gay people in my family we all come from heterosexuals. Funny thing is now because of my political opposition to your political agenda I for some reason don't deserve to have children. But you deserve to have marriage in a Christian church with rights to adopt because you can't reproduce yourself. Am I right ? yeah that is what I thought..

PS: Sorry for the horribly long post.
 
Sorry, Fred, but this required a response...


Fred said:
I usually dont get into these arguments, b/c I don't really care too much about 'gay rights'. In principle all for it, in practise the rhetoric is irratating.

I agree, which is why I haven't really read this thread until today...

Who cares about the Christian slant frankly. They're wrong about nearly every other big issue. There is plenty of reasonable people in the world that you need not concern yourself with a few zealots, who won't be altered no matter what. Their logic is intact, its from scripture.. Thats all there is to it. God says 'this is the way', and thats all you need to know.

Trying to convince them otherwise, is both futile, and actually flawed if you try to adopt their logic (which is perfectly self consistent). They have a premise, and they stand by it.
Wow. Awfully simplistic (and hateful?) view of Christianity, isn't it? I think Stvn said it best just a post before this one:

Stvn said:
Do not try to minimize that which you do not understand...
As a Christian, I easily tire of people making ridiculously sweeping generalizations like the one above (zealots?). I base my independent beliefs on available information and form my own opinions. Last time I checked, I was free to do as much in this country. Because you don't agree with my ideals, you call myself and others like me "zealots?" You say we're "wrong about nearly every other big issue?"

Look at those statements and see how ignorant they sound. Wrong compared to what? Your ideas? The ideas of the majority even? How does that make something wrong? In a thread about homosexuals not getting enough respect in our "free country", I find it irritating that Christians are simple-mindedly persecuted, for the most part, because "they" (every single person who believes Jesus died for us) are "wrong about nearly every other big issue."

Did it ever occur to you that most Christian ideals aren't evil at all? That they actually HELP promote goodwill and peace? The ignorant will bring up the wars in the Old Testament to argue this, but that's not Christianity, man. Christianity is about love AND TOLERANCE, to an extent. How bout Galations 5:22-23? How bout Jesus's choice of friends and people he frequently talked with (tax collectors, prostitutes, fishermen, etc..). He wasn't hateful to them, although he disagreed with the way they lived their lives.

I guess in your head though, Fred, it's evil to ever disagree with the way someone else chooses to live.

*Sigh*


As for the US's position on this in the UN. Its probably diplomatically sensible, in the same way that not taking a Jewish president is. Wrong, maybe, but savy yes.

Agreed here. Another twist: perhaps... just maybe... the U.S. feels that the UN shouldn't be concerned with this matter and this is motivation behind the abstention?
 
Huh. My partner and I are legal domestic partners. We've been together roughly 2.5 years now (officially became a couple on November 28th, 2000), and we even have rings with vow inscribed on the inner surface. We can't go any further than we have currently.

Not true. Go to Vermont.
 
MrsSkywalker said:
Huh. My partner and I are legal domestic partners. We've been together roughly 2.5 years now (officially became a couple on November 28th, 2000), and we even have rings with vow inscribed on the inner surface. We can't go any further than we have currently.

Not true. Go to Vermont.

Unions in Vermont are not recognized in NY. Yet.
 
WOW! :oops:

You guys are worse than I am. Talking about beastiality, homosexuality, heterosexuality, pedofiles, necrophelia, incest etc...

Normally I am the only person who goes into in depth discussions about those things. Who are you people anyway? :LOL:
 
Unions in Vermont are not recognized in NY. Yet.

*sigh* Then move. Or do something to change it.

Do you realise how many congressman you could have written to or called in the time it took you to write the above novella? You could have organized a petition, or held a public debate, or written a letter to the editor of your local paper, or requested/participated in a local radio talk show about the subject, or paid $50 for a 1/2 hour of local access cable to address your community and gain support....

There are so many more productive things you could have done. Instead, you chose to sit back and debate it with all of us...none of whom, to my knowledge, write the laws of NY.

That said, here's a piece of advice. My marriage is not sanctioned or recognized by the religion in which I was raised. You know what I say about that? F*ck 'em. I know that my love for my husband is real...I know that we were meant to be together...I know that there are only three entities that count: my husband, myself, and God, and all three approve of this union. If you are in love with your partner, then ignore the piece of paper and say "F*ck 'em" to anyone who has a problem with it. Because at the end of the day, you only have to face yourself and God. If you and your partner are sure of your love, that's really the only thing that matters. Go up on a hilltop, gather your friends and family, get a JOP to perform a union ceremony if it makes you feel better about your relationship. I'm telling you, the ceremony and piece of paper is NOT what makes it real. Being recognized by the state is NOT what makes it real.
 
MrsSkywalker said:
Unions in Vermont are not recognized in NY. Yet.

*sigh* Then move. Or do something to change it.

Do you realise how many congressman you could have written to or called in the time it took you to write the above novella? You could have organized a petition, or held a public debate, or written a letter to the editor of your local paper, or requested/participated in a local radio talk show about the subject, or paid $50 for a 1/2 hour of local access cable to address your community and gain support....

There are so many more productive things you could have done. Instead, you chose to sit back and debate it with all of us...none of whom, to my knowledge, write the laws of NY.

That said, here's a piece of advice. My marriage is not sanctioned or recognized by the religion in which I was raised. You know what I say about that? F*ck 'em. I know that my love for my husband is real...I know that we were meant to be together...I know that there are only three entities that count: my husband, myself, and God, and all three approve of this union. If you are in love with your partner, then ignore the piece of paper and say "F*ck 'em" to anyone who has a problem with it. Because at the end of the day, you only have to face yourself and God. If you and your partner are sure of your love, that's really the only thing that matters. Go up on a hilltop, gather your friends and family, get a JOP to perform a union ceremony if it makes you feel better about your relationship. I'm telling you, the ceremony and piece of paper is NOT what makes it real. Being recognized by the state is NOT what makes it real.

1) My partner and I are not going to move from our home over this. That's unrealistic. We might as well go all the way and go someplace like The Netherlands or Sweden if we're going to go that far.

I want to change the land I live in because I love it. Not leave it behind in disgust.

2) You make the assumption that I haven't already been involved in the process of legalizing gay marriages in this state. An incorrect one at that.

3) Your marriage isn't sanctioned by your religion, so be it. Is it sanctioned by the law of the land? Most certainly. And that is the big difference.

4) I never said my relationship with my bf isn't real or doesn't feel real because we can't get married. Read what I've written before. I said that we want, as well as a lot of other gay couples, to participate fully in the social ceremonies that help define who we are as a culture. If I felt that my relationship with my bf was a sham unless I got married to him, that'd be pretty sad. It's a good thing I don't feel that way isn't it.

p.s.: Don't worry Sabastian. I'm going to get to you. I'm just building up the psychic strength to deal with your baffling narrow minded ignorance. :)
 
Hey I was raised christian, I know full well that they are generally really great people.

As far as the political ruckus they make, generally their political caucus makes a fuss over outdated completely scientifically flawed issues.

Eg abortion, stemcell research, homosexuality, genetics, creationism, safesex, etc.

In no way does disagreeing with their stance make a person nonchristian, however there is a zealot crowd that won't budge on this, and thats where my post is directed too. Creationism is the classic example. Why they keep flaunting that bs in our face, is beyond me. Time and time again, its laughed at, mocked, disproven in every conceivable way by intellectual circles. yet miraculously its still around. /boggle

More on topic, the christian stance on homosexuality. Essentially has no scientific basis, one can reword it as one will, but their is clear evidence for genetic predisposition (a mix actually of environment and genetics, but both are clearly present). Its of course a contradiction to them (why would god make you a certain way), therefore science must be wrong.

Fine. Why Natoma and others like him, seek approval by these people, is still beyond me. Frankly it just strikes me as a way to stir up flames, since obviously no side will ever budge.

-shrug- If marriage is indeed worthless financially (take that as a assumption), I don't see the big fuss other than righteous indignation. Whine about a more worthwhile endeavour.
 
I don't even know where to start with this morass, so let's just go right on down the line ....


Well, care to tell me what your major is? Whatever the matter seems that your education is no more advanced then intro courses.


Pot calling the kettle black, apparently. Your arguments are very inconsistent and riddled with half-truths and stereotypes. Who is the uneducated one here? A degree does not make one intelligent or capable of decent discourse.


So the laws on the books say that sodomy is illegal yet seems that practice is wide spread. So much for laws being the pivotal factor in social mores. On one hand you say laws create social morals and on the other you say that there are laws that are outdated? How is it that sodomy has become a less valid offence when clearly the law is still intact? You say that laws determine social morals but yet we can see this isn't the case.

It's widespread because plenty of people enjoy it despite your distaste of it, and it's not a law that is easily enforceable. Why keep a law on the books that is mostly religious in nature, and only serves to repress, not protect or enhance?


I find it funny that you keep referring to 100 years into the past to look for your injustices. This suggest that indeed you see objective differences in society and that clearly it is better at this point in time. Lets look at this a little bit harder. 100 years ago the Irish were treated as low class people why is it you suppose that society changed its view of these people? It most certainly isn't a result of any action on behalf of the government so why is it now that they are treated as anyone else is? Do you look down on women that stay at home because they believe it is the right thing to do? Do you think less of men whom believe likewise? Are these women being patristic because they are not paying taxes? Do you think that such an arrangement ought to be incouraged for the sake of the well being of the children? Clearly you think there are other arrangements. While I would not argue that they are not viable I would argue that indeed children are fare better off in an environment where their biological parents are working together to look after their own children.

We as a humanity are partially the sum of our history, so it's not wrong to look to our past to see mistakes and learn how to not make them again.
Women who stay at home these days by and large choose to raise their family over having a career. While it's not the choice I would make, that is their choice to make and I respect them for that. I don't hold it against them because it's not my choice. What you are advocating is holding things against people because they don't choose as you do.

Is a crack-addicted mother and an absent father better for a child than a loving gay couple simply because they are a child's biological parents? Hardly. By denying gay couples the right to adopt, you strip them of their humanity, which is criminal in my estimation. Slavery strips people of their humanity, and thus it has been made illegal. Do you propose that there are humans who are less human for the purpose of satisfying your morals? Are we not all equal in the eyes of of the law, according to the consistitution? Why you do think you are justified in imposing your morals on those that don't choose to live as you do? Don't like homosexuality or homosexual acts? Don't engage in homosexual activities, and don't associate yourself with homosexuals. Your loss, their gain.


Clearly over 100 years ago there wasn't the great material wealth that the market economy has brought us today and these arrangements were more a matter of survival then anything else. The same arrangement has been predominant for the entire history of mankind. That is unless you want to go into the left wing theory that before society became market based we lived in some sort of suedo communal arrangement. Indeed hundreds of thousands of years ago the family where the mother is the primary caregiver and the father a more outside role of provider was the case. Which just lends more credence to the fact that society is patriarchal out of nature rather then nurture. Women have most always been subjugated. Even today men objectify the female. Women have always been more emotional on matters and this has always been a sign of weakness. Even in the feminist ruled Sweden they have a male as a figure head. ;)

Now who's uneducated? It's "psuedo" not "suedo" :rolleyes:
Oh, so because it's always been that way is a valid argument to keep it that way. Bullshit. That kind of argument keeps humanity in stagnation, and leads to eventual decay. Society is the way it is because people worship materialism, greed, and shallowness. Until people in general find something to fill the spirit (which is not necessarily religion), then people will remain empty, and fill that emptiness with hatred, intolerance, ignorance, and fear of that which is different from themselves. Humanity has potential to move beyond such things, and people like you would have us crawl in the dregs because that's what we have always done.


No one made the equation that morality equates correctness. You did however say that law equate morals and no one better then you ought to know that laws don't equate correctness. The UN has no right to begin to determine what a peoples moral values should be and that is the thrust of my argument here. The debate on the matter of homosexuality being a genetic affliction or not will only be finalized with the discovery of the genes that cause the affliction. Oh the search could go on forever particularly if there are none. We don't know do we? You say you were born the way you are but there is no proof of it. Further to suggest that nurturing will not effect the outcome of a childes mentality really does not go in line with the rest of your left wing bias. You could finally articulate your cognitive dissonance here and explain that somehow society is patriarchal out of nurturing but when it comes to homosexuality you make some exception with human nature and suggest that it is a genetic predetermined destiny. Well, that is something really because most of the left wing support the gay movement has says there is no human nature and it is simply a matter of socialization theories that we turn out the way we do. I have brought this argument to you before and you fail to recognize the legitimacy of the argument.
Please explain just what human nature is to us all as it seems you have some inside track on it.

He has a point, you know. He is a member of a minority that has been persecuted since the beginnings of organized religion, and has had members tortured and killed because of who and what they are. I would say that he does have some insight in the laws and how they are becoming the say on whats morally right. Since the religious right has a large influence politically, it could be argued that laws are defining morals.

It's NOT a damned affliction. You argue like gays hate what they are and wish they could change. The only wishing they do is to wish for acceptance in this narrow-minded, puritanical, and un-free society. Some attempt to change not because they hate what they are, but because others hate what they are, and no one wants to be hated. Some don't have the strength to live an ostracized life, and I can't blame them for wanting to find some acceptance.



Well finally we agree on something for the most part. But even though partial birth abortions were legal we still find them a discusting aberration don't we? I disagree with the idea that women should have total control over the pregnancy. But one always has to make some sort of concessions on these sorts of matters. I personally lost a child to abortion, a child that I wanted and the abortion happened after the first trimester. I simply did not have a say in the matter and this is wrong. The pro abortion mentality is that a woman should have a choice. I say they already have made a choice before they got pregnant to have sex with someone they would not have a child with. Personally I don't see how the child is at fault. Current laws are that a baby is not human until it is out of the womb, what kind of sick mentality makes such a claim. Abortion after the first trimester ought to be banned outright.

So you would leave a mother to die before you would allow an abortion after the first trimester to save her life? If performed correctly, she can always have other children.

It's not their humanity that is in question, it's their rights, and current law dictates that a fetus has no rights, or rights that are less than a born humans'.

I personally find it offensive when you imply that women are stupid for having sex with people that they might not want to have children with, and should always bear the consequences even when they act responsibly, (use condoms, take birth control, etc.). However men get to screw around as much as they want and they are admired for the notches on their belt. If anything is disgusting, it's that.


I don't know if there is such a thing as "gay children" at all. Seems you have resolved the age old nature nurture debate in one foul swoop with your homosexuality is genetic argument. I don't know what else to call people in chaps on a float of a giant erect penis. They are sick in the head. There are no homosexuals in my family we all come from heterosexuals. You keep your political agenda away from my children and stop trying to high jack societal values with your junk social science.


Do you realize how patently STUPID you sound when you say you have no homosexuals in your family because you came from heterosexuals? Homosexuals can biologically reproduce. Just because they prefer same sex partners doesn't mean that they can't be the father or mother of a child. You don't KNOW that there are no homosexuals in your family, because you and probably your entire extended family breed such an air of intolerance and hatred of homosexuals that they may be afraid or unwilling to come out. You don't KNOW either way. So stop making your purist claims that the "taint" of homosexuality isn't your family.
You keep your political agenda out of MY life. Societal values are not writ in stone, nor are they some high and untouchable code that cannot and should not be altered.


Listen I am not a Christian. Don't even pretend to be. Your suggesting that possibly one has to be a Christian or some other religious affiliation to be opposed to the proliferation of the idea that homosexuality is normal. Your wrong.

I don't buy that at all. Your attitude screams fundamentalist zealot. Only in religious doctrine does one see the argument that homosexuality is "wrong". I can buy that a non-religous person can be opposed to abortion, but to be non-religious and as virulently opposed to homosexuality as you are, that I do not buy.


They are only hurting each other in my opinion. What I am opposed to is the assumption that what they do is as normal as what heterosexuals do. Intercourse is based on the predisposition to reproduce. Homosexuals cannot ever reproduce.

Sterile heterosexual couples are screwed then. They should get a divorce and find someone else because they are not reproducing. That just gives more strength to my notion that marriage on the outside is naught a church-sanctified excuse for screwing and breeding.
Every time you have sex with your wife, you think about reproducing? I feel sorry for your wife, to be afflicted with a husband who is more concerned about reproducing than giving and sharing in mutal enjoyment of the act.
Let me let you in a little fact, since you seem incapable of grasping anything different than what you do. I am heterosexual, and I do not want to have children. By your fallacious logic, I am hurting myself and my partner every time I have sex, because neither one of us has intent to reproduce. WRONG. I am not hurting anyone, nor is my partner, because we are not bring children into this world we dont want just because some obsolete text tells us to.



lol, here we go on the sodomy laws again. Personally I think sodomy is disgusting, dangerous and damaging and don't engage in it at all. It is the proliferation of pornography that has popularized the use of sodomy. BTW have you ever been charged with sodomy? Anyhow it sounds as though you blame the law for the moral. I think it is the connection with the idea that feces is yucky and the lower intestine is not for sex but rather digestion that many think it is disgusting. But with the proliferation of the idea via porn it seems that we can see how the act can indeed be sexualized and nurtured into being a thing to do. Same goes with homosexuality eh?

Now I know you know nothing about anal sex with this little gem of ignorance. For most men, it is about the whole dominant/passive mentality that men are forced to accept from this society. A man who isn't totally aggressive and dominant is seen as weak and inferior. Anal sex implies passivity in this society, hence why so many heterosexual men are hysterically homophobic like you are.
Do like it? Don't do it. But don't force your morals down other people's throat because you don't like it.


Well you are wrong I do have to make sure my children are educated and sense I don't have the qualifications for it I must send them to the public schools where they will learn that homosexuality is normal etc. They won't learn the down side of it they will only learn the politically correct notion.

You mean they actually might come to the conclusion that it isn't as horrifying as you make it out to be, which seems to lead the the conclusion that you don't want your children to think differently than you do, and to accomplish that you would rather keep them ignorant than let them choose what they think and feel about things.
You can homeschool your children if you so choose. It doesn't have to be you who teaches, either. My boyfriend was homeschooled, and he had a teacher who was not either of his parents that he submitted his homework to and learned from. Do some research.


I don't disagree. Marriage is not about sex nor is it necessarily about love. What marriage is about traditionally is a family and the married couple looking after their own children. Today however after the onslaught of the "sexual revolution" we have a high divorce rate causing allot of deviance in the children of divorced families, impoverished single parents and the wider proliferation of simply horrible STDs that absolutely ruin peoples lives.

You have been TOLD what marriage is SUPPOSED to be and you accept that. The problem is here is that you refuse to accept that other people have different definitions of what marriage is, and what it means to them.
Another instance of "stagnation is better than progress because I can't handle change or difference, so one else will either". :rolleyes:
The higher divorce rate is not due to the "sexual revolution" (frankly I don't care what you mean when you quote it, since everything out of you is negative stereotypes so far), but rather due to the fact that people rush into a lifelong commitment not ready for it, and since divorces are easily obtained, there you are. We as a society are force-fed this notion that marriage is one thing and one thing only, and that it;s necessary to engage in one to love someone or have children.
The societal problems encountered in the past 200 years are due to the fact that we have a large influential population that would keep us 2000 years in the past with strict adherence to rules no longer capable of guiding current society, and a population that wants to move forward. Hence there is a segment that is caught in the middle, and there is rampant lack of education among all segments, which leads to the stereotypes you have been spouting this entire thread. Ignorance breeds ignorance. The only way to stop it is through education that isn't castrated by any one segment of the population.


Some of my best frends are gay too. ;)

No self-respecting gay person would put up with your total lack of tolerance and your drive to deride their way of life at every opportunity, so I seriously doubt you have any gay friends.


I am sad am I? More like extremely fed up with this left wing mentality that focuses on discrimination selectively. Again there are not any gay people in my family we all come from heterosexuals. Funny thing is now because of my political opposition to your political agenda I for some reason don't deserve to have children. But you deserve to have marriage in a Christian church with rights to adopt because you can't reproduce


As the rest of us are fed up with fundamentalist zealots like you who would destroy cultures and force feed your morals down everyone else's throats purely to keep eveything status quo, and everyone reduced to a sheeple who are not allowed to live differently if they so choose.

~Edited to clean up tags and remove typos.
 
Natoma,
Can you (or anybody) find a transcript of the actual resolution to be voted upon? Can anyone find the transcript in which the US delagation indicated that the US is abstaining form the vote? Usually the reasoning of the US's position is stated in the transcript. All I can find is information from Amnesty International-
http://web.amnesty.org/library/Index/ENGIOR410132003
 
Natoma said:
Joe, I'm going to forward your responses to your wife and she what she thinks of your thoughts on the affirmation of your marriage.

Think you'll be getting any tonight? ;)

Go on. Her address is sara@defuria.com

I'm sure she'll be pleased to know that I could give a shit about a legal piece of paper.

She knows we love each other, and she's very happy that we've had a public affirmation of our love in the form of a ceremony. Neither of which you are prevented from doing by any legislation.

And thanks for just dodging my whole post, and not addressing my responses. That give me "affirmation" that I am correct: you are either shallow in your view of what it "means" to be married, or "affirmation of love" is not your real motivation behind why you want gay marriages legalized.
 
Natoma said:
I said that we want, as well as a lot of other gay couples, to participate fully in the social ceremonies that help define who we are as a culture.

As I said before. You are not prevented from doing this, any more than the rest of us are. You can have whatever "social ceremony" you want, as long as you abide by the "social rules" of whatever body dictates the particular terms of their own ceremony.

Catholics have their own terms if you want to have a "Catholic sanctioned" ceremony. Jewish ones are different. Every society and sub-cultre has their own social ceremonies and "rules" by which you must abide to be able to partake in those ceremonies. If you don't abide by the rules, you don't get to partake in their ceremony.

There is NOTHING prventing you or other gays from coming up with your own social ceremony for "marriage" or "partnership" or whatever. It can exclude heterosexuals for all I care. It simply won't be legally recognized by most states, which isn't relevant to the "affirmation of love" unless (as I said) you are shallow IMO.
 
Joe DeFuria said:
Natoma said:
Joe, I'm going to forward your responses to your wife and she what she thinks of your thoughts on the affirmation of your marriage.

Think you'll be getting any tonight? ;)

Go on. Her address is sara@defuria.com

I'm sure she'll be pleased to know that I could give a shit about a legal piece of paper.

She knows we love each other, and she's very happy that we've had a public affirmation of our love in the form of a ceremony. Neither of which you are prevented from doing by any legislation.

And thanks for just dodging my whole post, and not addressing my responses. That give me "affirmation" that I am correct: you are either shallow in your view of what it "means" to be married, or "affirmation of love" is not your real motivation behind why you want gay marriages legalized.

Joe there's no need to respond to your post. It's full of drivel and self-defeating inane logic.

Obviously since I'm fighting for gay rights, one such right being legally recognized marriage, I have no clue what it means to be in a committed relationship with someone else because I think the actual act of marriage is more important than the love my relationship entails. Obviously my motives are shallow.

Dude Joe. Get a clue. :rolleyes:
 
Sabastian said:
Stvn said:
But that same right is shared by all those around you. And if the majority of people think that we need a law to protect someone's rights, then the government makes one (of course i am simplifying this ALOT).
What if the majority don't? Steam ahead with the political agenda until they do of course. Intimidate them with words like homophobic(not really a scientific term at all.), bigot, racist and so on of course.

This is democracy + capitalism, pure and simple. I do not agree with the corporate welfare system, but enough people made enough noise in the right ears for it to happen. I suppose I should clarify/revise my assertion (which I noted as an extreme simplification).

If the majority of voices clamoring for change think that we need a law to protect someone's rights, then the government makes one (of course i am simplifying this ALOT as well).

Sabastian said:
Stvn said:
You also have the right to teach your children your beliefs as well. You are not required (in the US) to send your child to any particular school, and especially one who teaches rules you dont agree with, this is your right. You are only obligated to provide proof that your child is being educated in a reasonable manner, so home-school if you are so concerned and feel so strongly.
Not in Canada and things are going that way in the states as well. In the US they have this growing movement called the Gay/Straight Alliance that is funded by US tax payers. I used to be able to find the recording of it for free but now it seems it is difficult to find. Gays activists are trying to shut down opposition to this organization. Take a look here to find out about what they have done.
http://www.massnews.com/past_issues/2000/Schools/fistrep.htm

No matter what you believe about homosexuality, I think most people would agree that "fisting" is not an appropriate subject for both a public school, and for children of that age group. I am just as astonished and abhorred as you are by what this article talks about. I'll leave it at that.

Sabastian said:
Stvn said:
You are also not required by law to allow your children to watch cable TV, or to view any other form of media you deem offensive.

Of course these rights of yours to seek out a different life for you and your children from the one offered by current society are guaranteed by the constitution. But that same guarantee means that you cannot tell me how to raise my children.
Well you are wrong I do have to make sure my children are educated and sense I don't have the qualifications for it I must send them to the public schools where they will learn that homosexuality is normal etc. They won't learn the down side of it they will only learn the politically correct notion.

There are plenty of resources for home schooling, as well as support groups, and possible even grants/scholarships/etc (not 100% sure about this, but i recall seeing something that effect). Home schooling has recently increased greatly in popularity largely for the same reasons you have put forth. And with the internet, it has grown even more in terms of effectiveness and range. It is not something you need a degree or training to do, just a love and commitment for child and their education. Several members of my extended family home-school because of the same reasons you put forth, and to much success.


Sabastian said:
Stvn said:
So how is this different for homosexuality? Is homosexuality simply about the act? I seriously disagree with that. That is the same as saying that your marriage (or my marriage, or any other heterosexual marriage) is just about "the act". And i would guess that you might disagree with that minimizing description of your married life.

Sex is the act. Love is something altogether different.

I don't disagree. Marriage is not about sex nor is it necessarily about love. What marriage is about traditionally is a family and the married couple looking after their own children. Today however after the onslaught of the "sexual revolution" we have a high divorce rate causing allot of deviance in the children of divorced families, impoverished single parents and the wider proliferation of simply horrible STDs that absolutely ruin peoples lives.

I disagree with the thought that the "sexual revolution" caused all that.

I think that you are forgetting about the surge of media in our culture, brought on by the TV and its now near ubiquity, and cheaper faster printing presses (and the computers doing the typesetting) that allowed for the boom in publishing. Let's not forget that in these same years the practice of psychology and psychiatry really got legitimized and brought into the public consciousness. This lead to a deeper investigation of the human psyche and in some ways a state of confusion in our culture as a whole. There was also a big "questioning of the establishment" going on in many areas of our society such as Racism and Women's Rights, this too contributed alot to the makeup of current society.

And to be honest, from what i know the sexual revolution was not really about "free love and STDs", as much as it was about a strive for sexual equality between men and women.

Sabastian said:
Stvn said:
I know Natoma pretty well, I have worked with him on and off for over 4 years now. I know that what i see between him and his partner is not "about the act" but a genuine affection and love for one another. Do not try to minimize that which you do not understand, you will almost always be wrong.
Some of my best friends are gay too. ;)

And how do they feel about your opinions/beliefs? I find this very interesting. Or are you just pulling my leg, I am afraid i cannot tell (such is the limit of ASCII text).

Sabastian said:
Stvn said:
I am sorry, am i the only one who finds humor in your ability to extend any idea to a level of utter ridiculousness?

This is just insane, and i wont even comment on it.
Why so? You seem to think that racism is a legitimate cause. People whom are fat also come under lots of discrimination regularly. The ugly are no exception. The problem here is that you cannot rationalize ending all discrimination and I would agree it is prepostourus. The hypocrisy comes when you defend one small group and forget about the rest.

I agree that fat and/or ugly people do get discriminated, and that many people do it unknowingly. I am not defending only a small group and forgetting about the rest though. I believe the vote before the UN was in regards to whether a discrimination against homosexuals is a violation of human rights. Its a much more serious issue than the whole fat/ugly debate. Sure on a theoretically level they are the same, and on that level i agree with you and do not think your comments are ridiculous. But in the context of human rights violations, in cases around the world where homosexuals are being killed, tortured or in some other way seriously punished for just being homosexual, it is ridiculous.


Sabastian, I would like to know a few things. Do you have any children yourself? I am interested because you have alluded to children in your life, and have made one mention of the loss of an aborted child, but you have never said if you do have children or not.

I ask you this because you ideas and beliefs about how you would raise your children strike me as extreme and deeply opinionated. Are they rooted in theory or in practice?

Also, you did not address my question re: what would you do if your children were homosexual. I have quoted it here again for you to respond.

Stvn said:
Sabastian said:
Stvn said:
Let me pose a question to you Sabastian.

What would you say to your child if they told you they were a homosexual? How would you deal with that?

-stvn

http://www.trailblazerscape.org/Articles/somegayschange.html

And what if your son or daughter says to you, "But dad, I dont want to change? I am happy with who I am."

What would you do then?


-stvn
 
Natoma said:
Joe there's no need to respond to your post. It's full of drivel and self-defeating inane logic.

You post some crap about e-mailing my wife, which I encourage you to do, and go on about having concerns about me "getting any", and I'M the one spouting inane logic? Good grief.

Obviously since I'm fighting for gay rights, one such right being legally recognized marriage, I have no clue what it means to be in a committed relationship with someone else because I think the actual act of marriage is more important than the love my relationship entails. Obviously my motives are shallow.

Whether or not you are shallow all depends on what your true motives are, Natoma, which I'm trying to drag out of you. I REPEAT. You are EITHER shallow, or your MOTIVES are not what you stated.

You spout all kinds of crap about "social ceremonies" and having your "love affirmed." And yet have not once drawn some connection from that...to the concept of a marriage "legally" recognized by the government.

Dude Joe. Get a clue. :rolleyes:

Dude, Natoma, be honest with us, not to mention yourself. You either feel that having a marriage being "legal" is in fact important to having your "love affirmed", or not.

If it is important, then yes, you are shallow.

If it's NOT important, (in which case you are contradicting what you said earlier was a big reason for wanting legalized marriage), then as I said, you have some other "real" motivation for leagalized marriage, such as having the same practical reality (legally) that married heteros have. I'm not saying or making any judgement about whatever other motivation you might have, because quite honestly, you have not said what it is.

But clearly, it cannot have it both ways. You can't claim to want to have legal marriage because it "affirms your love" if in fact you are now saying that it's not really important to the relationship.

Apparently, all that "Columbia and Yale" education didn't include a logic course.
 
Joe DeFuria said:
Natoma said:
Joe there's no need to respond to your post. It's full of drivel and self-defeating inane logic.

You post some crap about e-mailing my wife, which I encourage you to do, and go on about having concerns about me "getting any", and I'M the one spouting inane logic? Good grief.

Joe, the fact that you can't distinguish the difference between an obvious joke and reality just goes to show how futile it is trying to talk to you about anything.

Obviously I wasn't going to contact your wife. Why should I care what goes on between you two. :LOL:

But again, I don't blame you. In your natural way of snipping out pertinent parts of a post, you obviously missed the ;) symbol at the end. Or maybe you didn't miss it. Maybe you just chose to ignore it completely. Btw, I'm not ignoring the other parts of your post when you tried to make a connection between my fight for equal rights and shallowness. But if you have absorbed *anything* that I've written on this thread, and others (and I mean truly absorbed, not just looked at the words), you would understand how utterly ridiculous your attempted line of argumentation is.

As I said before. Get a clue.

p.s.: If anyone else thought that I was being in any way serious by that comment to contact Joe's wife, please raise your hand......

p.p.s.: Did you think that I was serious when I told Humus that he's a terrorist because he doesn't support the english system for punctuation? And to get with the program?

You do have a sense of irony/humor about you don't you joe? Yeesh.
 
Natoma said:
Joe, the fact that you can't distinguish the difference between an obvious joke and reality just goes to show how futile it is trying to talk to you about anything. Obviously I wasn't going to contact your wife. Why should I care what goes on between you two. :LOL:

Um, obviously it was a joke. But there would be no point in you making that joke unless you thought that if you DID contact her, you might think she would actually disagree with me.

I'm merely highlighting the ironic accusation that you levied against ME not having logic. Based on YOUR logic, my wife would have some issue with me. And I was telling you that you're wrong. (Again, what would be the point of that joke if you thought otherwise?)

But again, I don't blame you. In your natural way of snipping out pertinent parts of a post, you obviously missed the ;) symbol at the end.

And I don't blame you for not showing any semblence of logic, since that's not your demonstrated strong point.

Btw, I'm not ignoring the other parts of your post when you tried to make a connection between my fight for equal rights and shallowness.

You certainly haven't responded to them.

But if you have absorbed *anything* that I've written on this thread, and others (and I mean truly absorbed, not just looked at the words), you would understand how utterly ridiculous your attempted line of argumentation is.

As I said before. Get a clue.

I am begging you to give me a clue, Natoma, without being contradictory. You just won't oblige. All I understand is how utterly contradictory your attempted line of reasoning is.

Repeatedly telling me to "get a clue" doesn't do much for your line of argumentation, Natoma. It just makes you look childish. Be a grown-up and attempt to address my points to you.

p.s.: If anyone else thought that I was being in any way serious by that comment to contact Joe's wife, please raise your hand......

Um, if anyone else thought that if Natoma actually DID contact my wife, that he expected she would take some issue with my stance, raise your hand.

I know my "style" must drive you nuts, Natoma. It's always frustrating to have your contradictions pointed out. There is an easy solution to it though: Wither don't make contradictions in the first place, or actually explain how they are not contradictory at all.

You choose to take the "ignore" route, which only leads everyone to believe you have no explanation.
 
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