PROMISCUITY FACTS
[all references cited in chronological order in paragraphs below]
Since there is about twice as many male homosexuals as female, there is far more statistical information available about the "gay" male population. Most of it is of a sexual nature because of the strong male sex drive, but there are others areas of health that can be explored and examined dealing with this self-destructive lifestyle. Are homosexuals really promiscuous?
Few "gay" relationships last longer than two years, with many homosexual men reporting hundreds of lifetime partners. Source: Pollack, M. " Male Homosexuality," in Western Sexuality: Practice and Precept in Past and Present Times, ed. P. Aries and A.Bejin, pp. 40-61, cited by Joseph Nicolosi in Reparative Therapy of Male Homosexuality (Northvale, N.J., Jason Aronsons Inc., 1991), pp.124-25.
50% of homosexual men over the age of 30, and 75% of homosexual men over the age of forty, experienced no relationships that lasted more than one year. Source: M. T. Saghir and E. Robins, Male and Female Homosexuality: A Comprehensive Investigation (Baltimore: Williams Wilkins, 1973), pp. 56-57.
In 1978, a study done by two homosexual doctors revealed staggering statistics. Of 685 homosexual men, 589 (83%) had 50+ partners in their lifetime, 497 (73%) had 100+, 394 (58%) had 250+, 284 (41%) had 500+, 182 exceeded 1000 partners, an astonishing 26%. And 79% noted that over half their sexual contacts were total strangers. Source: Bell, A.P. and Wienberg, M.S. " Homosexualities: A Study of Diversity Among Men and Women " (New York: Simon & Schuster, 1978.)
Another large survey found that only 7 % of male homosexuals had been in a relationship that had lasted more than ten years. Source: K. Jay and A. Young, The Gay Report, (New York: Summit, 1979), pp. 339-40.
Homosexual author Seymour Kleinberg: " The prodigious ness of sex really depends deeply on change, and promiscuity is the easiest kind of change for gay men." Source: Seymour Klienberg, Alienated Affections (NY: St. Martin's Press, 1980), p. 171.
In a 6-month long daily sexual diary, gay men were averaging somewhere around 110 different sex partners per year. Source: Corey, L. and Holmes, K.K., " Sexual transmission of Hepatitis A in homosexual men," New England Journal of Medicine, 1980; Vol. 302, pp. 435-38.
A 1981 study found that only 2% of homosexual could be classified as monogamous or even semi monogamous (having ten or fewer lifetime sexual partners). Source: Bell, A.P., Weinberg, M.S., Hammersmith, S.E., Sexual Preference, 1981, pp.308-9.
Extreme promiscuity has in fact been a common occurrence among homosexual males for a long time. Back in 1982, homosexual author Dennis Altman even admitted: " now there is a move toward claiming that this (promiscuity) is part of a different, perhaps even superior, way of managing sexual relationships...(t) he assumption that it is desirable to have frequent and varied sex partners is increasingly seen as a positive part of gay life style." Source: Dennis Altman, " The Homosexualization of America, The Americanization of the Homosexual, (NY: St. Martin's Press, 1982) pp. 16-7.
According to the American Psychological Association, after the AIDS epidemic the average number of male homosexual partners only dropped from 70 to 50 per year. Source: Sally Ann Stewart, " AIDS Aftermath: Fewer Sex Partners among Gay Men," USA Today, 21 November 1984.
The 1984 book the " Gay Couple " was written by a psychiatrist and psychologist (who happened to be a homosexual couple), and they hoped to dispel the myth that "gay" couples lacked stability and long-term relationships. Rather than eliminate the myth, their research confirmed it. After much searching, they were able to locate only 156 couples in lasting relationships. The study also revealed that only 7 couples had actually maintained sexual fidelity and none of the seven had been together more than 5 years.
A Los Angeles study conducted in the late 1980s found that male homosexuals averaged over 20 partners per year. Source: L. Linn et al., " Recent Sexual Behaviors Among Homosexual Men Seeking Primary Medical Care," Archives of Internal Medicine 149 (December 1989): pp. 2685-90.
Two homosexual icons, Marshall Kirk and Hunter Madsen, wrote this about male homosexuality: " gay men aren't very good at having and holding lovers...(because) gay men tire of their partners (sexually) more rapidly than straight men." And according to them, the average homosexual male first "seeks (sexual) novelty in partners, rather than practices, and becomes massively promiscuous; (but) eventually, all bodies become boring, and only new practices will thrill. " The cheating ratio of 'married' [committed] gay males, given enough time, approaches 100%." Source: Marshall Kirk and Hunter Madsen," After the Ball," (NY: Doubleday, 1989) pp. 304-320.
In Spain, the average homosexual sexual encounters for men were 42 per year in 1989. Source: Rodriguez-Pichardo, A., et al " Sexually transmitted diseases in homosexual males in Seville, Spain," Genitourin Med, 1990; Vol. 66, pp. 423-27.
"Gay" monogamous relationships are rarely faithful. "Monogamous" seems to imply some primary emotional commitment, while causal sex continues on the side. Source: Con nell, RW. Crawford, J., Dowsett, GW., Kippax, S., Sinnott, V., Rodden, P., Berg, R., Baxter, D., Waston, L., " Danger and context: unsafe anal sexual practice among homosexual and bisexual men in the AIDS crisis," Australian and New Zealand Journal of Sociology (1990 ) 26: pp.187-208.
A three-year study in Boston found that 77% of 481 male subjects had had more than 10 partners in the previous 5 years, 34% more than 50 partners in the previous 5 years. Source: G. R. Seage III et al., " The Relation Between Nitrite Inhalants, Unprotected Anal Intercourse and the Risk of Immunodeficiency Virus Infection," American Journal of Epidemiology 135 (January 1, 1992), p. 5.
Between 17% to 54% of "gay" men continue to practice high-risk sex post-AIDS, suggesting an addictive drive. Source: Whitehead, NE., Whitehead, Bk., Submission to the Justice and Law Reform Select Committee on the Human rights Commission Amendment Bill 1992 ( Lower Hutt, New Zealand: Lion of Judah Ministries, 1993 ).
The Washington Post reported in 1993 that despite all the AIDS education for almost a decade " increasing numbers of gay men...are lapsing into previous patterns of unsafe sexual practices...†Source: Andriote, John-Manuel, " Gay Men and Unsafe Sex: Bridging a Gap Between Knowledge and Behavior," The Washington Post, August 10, 1993, Z14.
If loving relationships sound rare among homosexual males it is because they are. Jean Genet, a homosexual, observed: " What is a homosexual? A man for whom, first of all, the entire female sex, half of humanity, doesn't exist...For him romance is only a kind of stupidity or deception-- for him only pleasure exists." Source: Thomas McGonigie, " By his nature, out of step," Chicago Tribune, 24 October 1993, section 14, p.3.
Homosexuals still have 3-4 times as many partners as heterosexuals. Source: Laumann, FO. Gagnon, JH., Micheal, RT., Micheals, S., The Social Organization of Sexuality ( Chicago: university of Chicago Press, 1994 ).
The national gay and lesbian publication, The Advocate, reported " of 600 gay and bisexual male Milwaukeeans, 73% said they've had sex in the past six months with someone they never saw again." Source: The Advocate, June 14, 1994, p.16.
A survey of 239 gay and bisexual males between the ages of 13 to 21 found that despite accurately understanding the odds of HIV infection, 63% participated in behavior that put them at "extreme high risk." Source: Ramafedi, Gary, " Predictors of Unprotected Intercourse Among Gay and Bisexual Youth: Knowledge, Beliefs and Behavior," Pediatrics, August 1994, vol. 94, no.2, pp. 163-168. Cf., Lemp, George F., et al, " Seroprevalence of HIV and Risk Behaviors Among Young Homosexual and Bisexual Men - The San Francisco/Berkeley Young Men's survey," Journal of the American Medical Association, August 10, 1994, vol. 272, no.6, pp.449-454.
Another story in The Advocate reported that although 71% of homosexual men claimed that they prefer long-term "monogamous" relationships, only 33% live with a partner, only 11% have a "primary male partner, only 8% are dating one particular person, with 87% involved in multiple dating. Source: Lever, Janet. " The 1994 Advocate Survey of Sexuality and Relationships: The Men," The Advocate, August 23, 1994.
Actor Woody Harrelson admits: " Every (acting) business I ever entered into in New York seemed to have a casting couch...I've seen so many people sleep with people they loathe in order to further their ambition." Source: Stephanie Mansfield, " Wild and Woody," Chicago Sun-Times, USA Weekend section, July 5-7, 1996, p. 5.
A Los Angeles Study of young homosexual males in 1996 revealed that about 50% of those between 15 to 22 years of age had engaged in " high-risk, unprotected sex" during the previous 6 months. Source: Bettina Boxall, " Young Gays stray from Safe Sex, New Data Shows," Los Angeles Times, September 3, 1996, sec. A.
Way too many homosexuals, even in these AIDS-ridden times, enjoy impersonal or casual sex with numerous partners. Indeed, a couple of recent studies support the contention that unsafe sex by homosexuals has significantly increased over the last few years and gaining more popularity. Source: One study was done by the Center for Disease Control and Prevention and was reported in the Chicago Sun-Times (26 September 1997, p. 30). The other was discussed in U.S. News & World Report (Stacey Schultz, " AIDS: no more silver bullet," 13 July 1998, p. 21).
" The facts, enough gay men are once again having enough unsafe sex that the rates of HIV infection, gonorrhea and syphilis are returning to frightening heights. " Source: Kramer, Larry, " Gay Culture, Redefined," The New York Times, December 12, 1997, op ed page.
An upscale homosexual men's magazine, Genre, surveyed 1037 readers in October of 1996. Here are some of the results: " One of the single largest groups in the gay community still experiencing an increase of HIV are supposedly monogamous couples." 52% have had sex in a public park. 45% have participated in three-way sex. 42% have had sex with more than 100 different partners and 16% claim between 40 to 100 partners. Source: LaBarbera, Peter, " Survey finds 40% of Gay men have had more than 40 Sex Partners," The Lambda Report, January-February 1998, p.20.
Some men who have sex with men (MSM) may be recruiting sex partners in anonymous venues more often now than in the recent past. Source: Sowell Rl, Lindsey C, Spicer T, "Group sex in gay men: its meaning and HIV prevention implications," Journal of Association of Nurses AIDS Care, 1998; Vol. 9: pp.59-71.
Studies consistently show age differences in the sexual activities of gay men. Younger men have more partners, a greater frequency of sex, "cruise" more and have shorter relationships than older men, while older men are more likely to pay for sex. Source: Gilmore, MR, Schwartz, P, Civic, D, (1999), The social context of sexuality: The case of the United States, In KK Holmes, PA Mardh, PF Sparling, SM Lemon, WE Stamm, P Piot, & JN Wasserhelt (Eds.), Sexually Transmitted Diseases, 23 (2). pp.109-114.
When STDs are introduced into the gay community, the size of the subsequent outbreak depends on the sexual mixing patterns of the gay community, the numbers of sex partners, concurrency of sexual partnerships, condom use, and frequency of partner change which at times can be great in the gay community. Source: Aral SQ., " sexual network patterns as determinants of STD rates: paradigm shift in behavioral Epidemiology of STDs made visible," Sexually Transmitted Diseases, Vol. 26; pp. 262-264.
Judy Wieder, editor in chief of The Advocate, wrote that according to Simon LeVay, a homosexual scientist who has researched homosexuality extensively - (males) are much more interested in causal sex and non monogamous relationships. In the same article, Gretchen Lee, managing editor of Curve, was quoted that one of her female staff writers wanted to "even cruise for sex as gay men do." Source: " Do gay men and lesbians get along?†XY Magazine, July 1999, no.20, p. 77.
In the July 1999 issue of " Out Magazine ", there was an article about a lesbian and a gay guy who decide to get married. The lesbian, Lisa, explains the limitations of their relationship, " I had huge performance anxieties, I mean, the total number of men whose bodies I'd touched and tried to please was, you know, 9. That was, like, the total number of men Bro (her gay husband) would try to please in a weekend...We'd drive out to the Palisades in the evening and talk and talk and talk, then I'd drop him off to go have sex in bathrooms." Source: Miles, Sara, " He kissed a girl," Out Magazine, July 1999, pp.51-53.
From July 29 through August 1, 1999 in Boulder, Colorado, a " Gay's Men's Health Summit " was held. Two of the five stated goals of the summit were - should health groups benefit from circuit parties (basically orgies)? and can we create healthy gay cultures without challenging promiscuity? Some of the unbelievable workshops at this summit were as follows: " Dying to Party, or Partying for our Lives? ", " Raw Data: Defining, Researching and Working with Barebacking", " Public Places, 'Private' acts: A Forum on Commercial and Public Sex Environments ", " Hot Topics: Being Fucked ", " Pleasure, Danger, and Kink: Health and Safety for Contemporary Gay Leatherman (and Boyz) ", " Gay Male Sex Addicts: Who are They and how do We Help? ", " Swallowing It Whole: The Context and the Facts of Oral Sex ", " Hot Topics: Can We Create Healthy Gay Male Cultures without Challenging Promiscuity? ", " Smeering the Queer: Anal Cancer Screening and Pap Smears for Gay Men ", " Informal Discussion: Promoting Health to Risk-Seeking Men ", and finally " Special Performance: Tony Valenzula's Adventures of the Bareback Poster Boy ".
Dr. Martin Dannecker, a homosexual German Sexologist, studied 900 homosexuals in 1991 living in "steady relationships". 83% of males had numerous sexual encounters outside their partnerships over a one-year period. Dr. Dannecker observed "clear differences in the manner of sexual gratification" between single and non-single gay men that were the reverse of what he expected. Of the homosexual men in steady relationships, he wrote, " the average number of homosexual contacts per person was 115 in the past year." In Contrast, single gay men had only 45 sexual contacts. Source: Wittmeier, Carmen, " Now they know the other half," Alberta Report, 1999 06 07, p.27.
A Survey of 503 gay or bisexual men on the streets of West Hollywood, California found that the more optimistic the men felt about new drug therapies for HIV/AIDS, the less likely they were to use condoms during anal sex, limit their number of sex partners or determine their partners HIV status. Source: Halperin, Karin, " Risky Business," HIV Plus, February/ March 2000, No.7, p. 6.
" I've been thinking about cheating on my lover. I've been thinking about it since the night a few weeks ago when I was at a cocktail party without him and someone... asked, ' So, which of those boys will you be going home with tonight? ' When I explained that Dave and I are monogamous, I was met with a bewildered expression. My friend looked at me as if... ( I was) the last remaining dodo bird... Monogamy as aberrant behavior is something I never really considered...The more I talk to my (gay) friends, both in and out of relationships, the more I discover that a lifetime of sex with one person isn't everyone's idea of a good time. For many of the (gay) men I know, it's more like a death sentence...I have a friend who has an amazing body, primarily because all he eats is salad and tuna... When I asked him once why he won't indulge, even a tiny bit, he said, ' I'd rather have perfect abs than enjoy a few seconds of pleasure and have to work it off later.' This same friend finds it impossible to remain faithful to a lover. No sooner has he found a man he says he loves than he's off tricking with someone else. He sees no irony in this. In fact, he once asked me, ' How can you have sex with the same guy over and over? Don't you ever want to try something different? '...he's not willing to trade the momentary pleasure he gets when he has sex with someone other than his lover...At the same time, he wonders why his relationships never last more than six months... Now, I'm not foolish enough to believe that monogamy is for everyone... But I do think it gets a bad rap in the queer community, especially among gay men... Over and over I've heard people talk about how liberating non-monogamy is, and how stifling and antiquated the notion of fidelity is... I've been told by various (gay) people concerned for my well-being that my feelings about this are based on insecurities. I've been told I don't know the difference between sex and love. I've been told that I've bought into the heterosexual fallacy... as I said, I've been thinking about cheating on Dave. Really, it's not that hard. Sexual arousal is an easy trick to master." Source: Michael Thomas Ford , " One On One," Baltimore Alternative, My queer life section, May 30, 2000. p. 43.
Several Studies have shown that transmission of sexually transmitted diseases (STDs) such as human immunodeficiency virus (HIV) infection, often involves persons with multiple and sometimes anonymous sex partners. Sex with anonymous partners typically has been initiated in bars, bathhouses, clubs, or parks. It has been suggested that the Internet maybe be another venue for the initiation of sexual contact. The following study appeared in the Journal of American Medical Association (JAMA) July 26th issue. A Cross-sectional survey conducted September 1999 through April 2000 with a total of 856 clients of the Denver Public Health HIV Counseling and testing Site in Colorado. 69.2% of the survey were men, 34.7% were homosexual or bisexual, and aged 20 to 50 years represented 84.1% of participants. The results show that 21.8% of those seeking sex over the internet had a history of STDs, 88.7% solicited oral sex, 41% had anal sex and 16.8% reported being sexually exposed to a person known to have HIV infection. Table 3 showed 135 (15.8%) of clients reporting that they had logged on to the internet to seek sex partners, and 88 (65.2%) of these having successfully initiated sexual contact: of those who had sex with more than 3 different Internet partners over a 6 month period was 34 (38.7%). Table 4 showed the majority of online seekers were men (65.2%), white (76.2%), and between the ages of 20 to 39 (63.2%). Also table 4 revealed that 67.7% of on line sex seekers were either homosexual or bisexual and that 76.7% meet and had homosexual sex encounters via the Internet. This led the researchers to conclude the following: Online seekers were more likely to be homosexual than offline clients and online partners were more likely to be homosexual than the online-no partner group. Finally, Table 5 reveals that online sex seekers were more likely to have had an STD and that 28.9% of online seekers reported exposing themselves to known HIV-positive partners. 63.4% and 72.9% respectively were homosexual sex encounters with 97% being oral sex and 69.4% being anal sex. Source: M. McFarlane, PhD., S.S. Bull, PhD., MPH., C.A. Rietmeijer, MD.,MPH., " The internet as a newly Emerging Risk Environment for Sexually Transmitted Diseases," Journal of American Medical Association, July 26, 2000: pp. 443-446.
Men's Health magazine reported in June that (heterosexual) men, on average, have 12.4 sex partners (in a lifetime), and have sex 1.5 times per week. These numbers may seem low to many gay men, who generally exercise greater sexual freedom than their heterosexual counterparts. But for a person who is sexually compulsive these numbers may seem shockingly low. Frequent sexual encounters may be accompanied by feelings or guilt and minor consequences. Ken (a gay man) suffers from Sexual Addiction, "It's just so much easier to have anonymous sex with someone I don't know. There is this buildup of excitement and a sexual rush, hoping the other guy will notice me...want me. After we connect, I just lose myself in the sex. It's really not about knowing the guy. I rarely even want to know his name. When it's over, I can simply walk away, " said Ken. Among the problems caused by sexual addiction in "gay" men is one of the most common of contracting frequent and/or multiple sexually transmitted diseases (STDs) ( i.e., HIV, syphilis, chlamydia, gonorrhea, etc.). Source: Shaun Bourget, M.A., M.F.T., " Sexual Addition: On a Road to Nowhere," GayHealth.com; July 26,2000.
Sundiata Alaye' (has) a message too rarely spoken and too easily dismissed. Alaye' began " In a time when we should be living and celebrating life, having learned great lessons from the loss of many of our dear friends to AIDS and violence, we are not. Many of us are in pain and have given up ever finding happiness, consistency or peace in our lives. Many of us are acting out sexually... While the number of brothers coming forward with their sexually has increased, so has the number of circuit parties and other events aimed at same gender loving men of color. Yet, these events for some have become nothing more than a catalyst for weekends of sexual pleasures, fantasy and endless, non-stop parties and obsessions. It appears that in many ways our sense of responsiblity to each other and ourselves has been compromised as we break all the rules on sexual restraint." While the words are painfully harsh to some, others have come out to herald Alaye's veracity. A renown speaker, Alaye' has traveled the country promoting his book and giving seminars on critical topics such as " Sex - Why So Much." Pulling no punches, Alaye' delves deeply into the world of risky behavior and attempts to break down the barriers keeping black, gay men from spiritual fulfillment. "We've lost our self-esteem and, in many ways, we've lost our self-respect... a dangerous loneliness and depression that sometimes results in loveless sex." Yes, while his focus may be on the black male, it appears relevant to us all (gay men). Source: Jason Micheal, "Sundiata Alaye' brings his strong and soothing message to HTJ," Between the Lines,
www.pridesource.com, July 27. 2000.
" Ever have the experience of fucking Mr. right for hours, only to feel utterly isolated once the clothes go back on? Ever have sex with a stranger for a few minutes, only to find yourself falling in love? Some folks blame many of the ills of the gay community - including the rise in new HIV infection - on 'a pervasive lack of intimacy,' epitomized by many queers' fondness for casual sex. Now, love is a fine thing, the best thing, and the intimacy of love is, well, lovely. But casual sex can be fine, too, or so many of us gay guys believe... If magic happens in bed, even if it's just for a little while, and both guys know they'll never meet again, why deny that the magic is real?... Let Mr. Right Now know that you're not just attempting to fit him into some pre-existing fantasy... We queers have the freedom to rienvent the ways we have relationships: for example, the concept of 'fuckbuddy' seems so queer, and often so friendly and healing... Instead of dividing ourselves into 'good queers with committed relationships' and 'bad queers who fuck around,' we can try to make all our sex, whether for a lifetime or an hour, in a domestic partnership or an anonymous bit of cocksucking in the park, good. And intimate." Source: Simon Sheppard, "Speaking of Intimacy," Between the Lines,
www.pridesource.com, December 7, 2000.
U.S. Park Police have charged nearly 300 people with indecent exposure with "indecent acts" as part of large-scale effort to address growing complaints from tourists about public sex along the George Washington Memorial Parhway. The dockets in U.S. Disrict Court in Alexandria have gotten so crowded with public sex cases that prosectors hoping for jail time for first-time offenders, and judges are beginning to comply. Iwo Jima Memorial Park, Turkey Run Park and nearly half a dozen other spots along the Virginia shore of the Potomac have become so notorious that they appear on Internet directories of gay male cruising spots. As a result, people have come across sex acts in parking lots, pathways and restrooms at all hours of the day and evening. Since February 2000, 293 people have been arrested on public sex charges. "We have a real problem here," Assistant U.S. Attorney Roseanne Haney said. "You have some of the nation's most prominet parks that are sites for everyone to enjoy, and you go into a restroom and find" sex acts. U.S. Magistrate Judge Theresa C. Buchanan heard 16 such cases yesterday alone. The time of the offenses ranged from 9 in the morning to 10 at night. Charles Gallagher, of Arlington, who had a prior conviction for the same offense, (got) 14 days of jail. Defense attorney Charles Kramer said that Gallagher didn't deserve two weeks in jail for performing a sex act on a pathway at Iwo Jima Memorial Park. "These are two consenting adults. It was nighttime. They even moved into a tree-lined area where they were less observable," he said. Defense attorneys say that the continuing arrests show the undercover enforcement effort is not working and argue that uniformed officers would be a greater deterrent. Kevin F. Jocembs, 38, of Alexandria, who pleaded guilty to performing a sex act on stranger in a restroom at Washington Sailing Marina, criticized the way he was arrested. The officer, Jocembs said, was in plainclothes and seemed to be part of the cruising scene. Shirley Lesser, director of the gay rights group Virginians for Justice, said police are more inclined to go after gay sex because " we do live in a society that condemns homosexuality." Both the complaints and the enforcement effort have focused on gay male cruising areas, but police and prosecutors said they treat all public sex the same. One (gay) cruising Web site suggests that the enforcement may be starting to work. Although Washington Sailing Marina is described as a "Cruising parking lot" and "lots of action at all times of day" the entry is flagged in red with a note warning of law enforcement activity. Source: Brooke A. Masters, " Judges Get Tough on GW Parkway Sex Cases," Washington Post,
www.washingtonpost.com, just enter "gay" in search engine, March 23, 2001.
Men seeking out other men for discreet anonymous sexual encounters have been going on for centuries. Cruising city streets, parks, bookstores and restrooms to find sex partners remains for many men a large part of their sexual identity. Even given all of the dangers associated with cruising ( i.e. assaults by hustlers, unsafe sex, etc.) it remains for many men their primary sexual outlet. Underscoring the danger of cruising over the past month four men have been assaulted and robbed while looking to hook up in Druid Hill Park. The internet has added a new dimension to cruising. Now instead of wandering around bushes or waiting in a bathroom stall, men seeking sex with other men can go online and cruise hundreds of web sites and chat rooms to arrange anonymous sexual encounters... sex takes place at pre-arranged parties devoted to men on the down low [DL]. But unlike the bushes... most sex parties have strict requirements regarding what type of men they will allow in. Almost without exception - you have to be young, hung and fit - no fats, fems or tiny weenies need show up... Diego Perez founded [a] group [Diesel Life] for larger African and Latino men as an alternate place to go instead of Baltimore's city parks. But he also wanted a place for large men to learn about themselves and not feel discrimination they often find when cruising on line or in a local club... Perez explains... " There is so mush {size} discrimination in the African-American community." To demonstrate his point, Perez can locate scores of web sites promoting sex parties that make it clear large, unattractive men need not apply... While sex is certainly an important part of Diesel Life's parties, it isn't the only purpose... only about half the men who attend actually engage in sexual activities... That is much different than other parties where sex is the sole focus. " Sex parties are a staple of the DL community," Perez says. On any given day it is possible to go online and locate up to 60 different sex parties around the country. Source: Out Front, "On the Down Low, Diesel Life offers alternate to cruising city streets," Mid-Atlantic Gay Life, March 8, 2002, page 2.
