Yah, on monitors it's very uncommon to have good control. At best you get a hardware calibration option that stores a 3d lut. You never really have extensive manual controls to do a tv-style calibration. I expect monitors limit that control because they don't have the same image processing capabilities to reduce cost and reduce latency.
For my display, which is just HDR, I'm using an open source tool to do my display calibration for me through an undocumented API in the nvidia drivers. I have no idea why things are this dumb.