Aw, this makes me sooo nostalgic! I went off on management like 10-15 years ago for the same thing.
About 1/2 my posts were being deleted and it
pissed me off! After being very politely informed about their policies and I could either accept them or go somewhere else. Spent a few days pouting, then re-thought the posts I had made and realized that while I might have been right I was most DEFINITELY an asshole about it and sort of got it. Every forum moderates their boards differently, and you (royalish you, since I HATE aristocratic crap.
) have the choice of either trusting and accepting their moderation or find a forum that moderates more to your liking.
I'm glad about how I chose. I know there's a lot of guys here who are smarter than me, but more importantly to me is I know the team here who runs the site and moderates it and I really like them and trust their judgement. They don't make rash decisions and they really do agonize/worry if they made the right call some times. It's not done willy-nilly. By choosing to remain here and post I think it's helped me grow a bit as a human being or at least improve my communications so that I can post with civilized type folks and they have no clue I'm a foul mouthed, bad mannered, evil-at-heart-trying-desperately-not-to-let-it-out type sociopath who's just been pretending to be a kind person for over 20 years now out of choice.
It can be aggravating at times, but it's just how it is and they're not picking on anyone...they're just trying to keep their forums still the best place for information/discussion on the net.
On a personal note, you (Ninelven you, I'm not sure if you're royalty or not but I won't hold it against ya since you seem pretty cool), seem to be very understanding of the situation and understand the mods perspective while respectively expressing your own opinions. As another guy who's modded/admined a few forums I tip my hat to you and would shake your hand if we met in person, it's not easy to take criticism/moderation and handle it as calmly and understandingly as you have. Good job, I personally hope you choose to stay.
Rys, fantastic explanations! I think it was Reverend or Wavey who lectured me on it, but man your words are good! (It had to be Wavey, Rev would have just banned me. LOL )